I Don't Know About My T

[a3a2]

Okay, so I did it. I talked to my fiance today and he completely understood what I was saying and where I was coming from. He had even said that he didn't think my t's style was really working for me anyways. So he's going to help me find a new t and he even said that he would explain the boundary issues to my t for me (I know, I'm being a chicken there, but he offered). I was going to ask my case manager to let my t know, but my fiance said he'd be able to explain better, so we're going with that. I feel SOOOOO relieved and just grateful for my fiance. It's like a huge burden has been lifted!

I think it is great you have an advocate!

 

[Lionheart]

I hope you are able to find a good therapist. I had one "T" who really went out of her way to help me. She 'became' the voice in my head that refutes my inner critic and encourages me when I am down. She taught me how to be my own best therapist and she would always call me on my "Stinkin' thinkin'" Her name was Jeannie and I liked to think of her as my "genie in a bottle." :) She was a very good therapist and I hope you find one as good for you as she was for me.

 

[Reclusive]

I hope so, too. I'm starting to lose faith that I will, but that won't stop me from trying.

 

[anthony]

Nothing worse than a professional who just agrees with the most distorted thinking you send their way... and then they respond... so how did that make you feel. That is pure laziness and just $$$ for nothing.

 

[Srain]

Reclusive, I just needed to say something here. It wouldn't matter if YOU were the one sending him mixed signals and flirting, asking to be his friend, etc. It is still HIS responsibility as a Professional to draw the lines of Therapist and Client, NOT YOU. Please think about this and do your best to take it in. Would you blame a child for a Teacher crossing the lines and coming on to that child??? NO, it's wrong, this is the same case scenario. Professional Boundaries.

The great thing is you caught on! :) Good job!! :tup: You trusted your instincts and it's alright to get outside opinions but all in all YOU knew something wasn't right first and you prevented things from getting any worse. You trusted your gut and took a BIG step to take care of yourself. You should be very proud of what you've done because I am :)

hugs,
Rain

 

[Reclusive]

@Anthony - Yeah, he'd just ask me what I did that week and then go off on some random tangent about one time he heard this one thing and blah blah blah..... Didn't even get to the "So, how do you feel about that?" part.

Thank you, Srain. I feel SO MUCH BETTER now, especially since I finally remembered to unfriend him on FB last night or the night before. I'll be honest, ever since I was little drunk people have scared me, I don't like to go to bars or clubs or anything like that just for that reason. So being chatted at by my drunk t was just... really unnerving.

And I'm glad that my fiance has decided to step up and tell him so I don't have to. I feel it'll go better that way - if I do it I'm likely to hem and haw and agree to some compromise-but-not-really kinda thing.

 

[KP the nut]

I'm starting to lose faith that I will, but that won't stop me from trying.

Good, because you are worth nothing less than the best T you can find :inlove:

 

[Reclusive]

Aw, thank you KP! I hope I can find a good one. (((KP)))