Relationship I need someone to talk to

[MichelleIP]

My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year. I have a wonderful connection with him and I believe he feels the same way. I truly love him more than anything. We got along well, aside from small arguments here and there, until about two months ago. He started to become distant physically and emotionally. I was able to keep a loving supportive attitude because I knew he was going through some things. But then he started to become a little mean. He would get mad at the littlest things and call me names. We talked about it and I thought things would get better but it didn't. The last argument was two nights ago. I wanted to take him to dinner and just have a good time like we use to. At some point the conversation turned into me showing concern about one of his hobbies. I'm a cop and I get concerned about his safety sometimes. He did not like that very much. He finally looked at me, told me that that was the most painfully awkward dinner he's ever had, and he wanted a break. My reaction probably wasn't the best but I burst into tears. What killed me the most was he showed no emotion what so ever. I finally just told him whenever he figured out what he wanted to let me know. Looking back, I let my emotions get the best of me. I should have just given him the break when he asked for it. So now I'm giving him space but I don't know if/when it would be I good idea to contact him. I just really need someone to talk to.

 

[Sweetpea76]

I'd just give him some space for now. Let him contact you.

 

[EveHarrington]

I agree, give him space and let him come to you.

Take care of yourself. I know it's not easy.

:hug:

 

[Chem Lady]

I have done the same thing and then regretted it immediately: I offered to be there for someone who wasn't treating me great and I should've cut ties with. I don't know for sure that you should cut ties with this guy, it's just that you sounded so much like me in your post and I know that I let people walk all over me too often because I feel like I need to be there for them and give them millions of chances. I need to continue to learn to think that I am important and that I deserve to be treated well by others. I hope that you are doing the same for yourself.
It can be so hard to know what's the best thing to do sometimes.
Hugs.

 

[Buttercup]

Don't beat yourself up about getting emotional. You are human and have emotions and we don't always know the exact right thing to do in any given moment. And it's completely understandable and forgivable. Even your concern for his safety.

I do agree to just give him space. Do your best not to contact him. You could use that time to think about if you want to be with someone who is mean to you and calls you names.