I Need Support And Validation

[Anarchy]

Hugs Gizmo.

You are one courageous granny! And in the middle of what's going on in your life, you are still reaching out and comforting people here too:notworthy:

Something I picked up in one of Raymond Bergner's papers, whatever choice we make in situations like this, we'll always worry that we should have acted differently.

I hope that helps when doubts come a callin.

I think you did right, and I think your daughter and granddaughters will come to that belief as well.
:hug:

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Thank you so very much my friend @Chincho for what you said. I appreciate this so so much. With everything you are currently going through right now in grieving for your husband this means so much to me.

Thank you so much @Anarchy Your words really were timely for me because I was just self doubting myself big time. I really appreciate this so much and I will remember it and it will help me so much from now on. This also works on any other regrets I have in my life as well. Big hugs to the both of you.

 

[Neverthesame]

Sounds like you know that you did the right thing.

I do honestly agree with you. If it helps for me to write it down for you to read. Then I am happy to oblige.

You did the right thing, so sorry it has had such a negative impact on your life.

In most fiction the person who does the right thing, is usually promptly rewarded in some meaningful way.

Sadly, in real life the opposite is often the case. It would appear that this time will not be the exception.

These negative repercussions of noble deeds. Does however make the sacrifice of the person who chose to risk all, even more meaningful. If the right thing was easy to do, no one would do wrong.

While anything myself, or the other people who have already written, will do little to alleviate the pain you are experiencing, having lost access to the ones you hold most dear.

Know that you have my sympathies, as well as my admiration for the sad price you have had to pay for doing what was right. Do hold onto the knowledge that this is not permanent, that you will see them again.

You are in my thoughts.

 

[laurainalameda]

No one ever tried to save me. Some day she will look back and understand that you were trying to save her. She is just not ready yet. You did the right thing. Peace be with you. Laura

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Wow @Neverthesame thank you so much for describing what I am experiencing so well and defining the situation as well. What you said really helps me out so much and I appreciate your support and understanding so much.

@laurainalameda Thank you so much for the reminder that we all have to grow up into the truth and realize things which does take time. That reminder helped me so much.

I am becoming aware that this will all take time and i have to start all over changing what I can about me from the inside out Hugs to both of you with gratitude.

 

[The Albatross]

Giz you do realize you acted in accord with your conscience... what else is there, really?

 

[The Albatross]

In the end that's all we have/anybody has... our conscience. Normal peeps stand by it... we? Eh, not so much. Not as much as we ought I think.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Thank you so much @The Albatross I did not realize that at all and I really appreciate your pointing that out to me because it helps so much.

I woke up hurting because of what is going on this morning and I needed a common sense reminder of what is really important.

 

[Changing4Best]

You did the right thing, @gizmo and don't you forget it! Time will tell.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Thank you so much @SheilaKathy . Time will tell for sure.. I appreciate the reminder.

 

[void]

Last week my oldest granddaughter ran away from home. When she got home I asked her if her mom had cut her...

Compassionate:hug::hug::hug::hug::hug:to you and the dear child.
You did nothing wrong and it still went against you.
This suffering too shall pass.
Your healing will continue and the child's will begin.
Be well.:hug:

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Thank you @void I really appreciate what you said and it sure is the truth. hugs to you as well