Hey,
My name is Chelsea. I am new to this site so I have no idea what I am doing or if I am doing it right. I am an Army wife to a wonderful husband who is currently deployed for the 3rd time. We have a 10 month old daughter. He left 10 days after she was born. So needless to say he hasn't spent much time with her at all. Anyways, I know he has had a hard time with past deployments but he seemed to get better over the last 8 years. Now all of the sudden he is a different man. We talk daily on the computer on a video call. Everything has changed:
He has no emotion on his face. He doesn't get excited about anything. He has no emotion at all. Before he would get stressed out and even get angry at times. Which always silently bothered me that he would lose his temper so fast but now any emotion would be better than none. He doesn't get excited when our daughter says da da.
He doesn't even want to discuss anything but the things he wants to do and the things he wants to do have nothing to do with my daughter and I. All the things he wants to do are things that involve shooting guns at a range and joining competitions. This is very unlike him. I do understand that he is preparing himself for his return home in the next few weeks. This is typically normal for him but not to this extreme.
He is so negative towards me. Its almost like he is pushing me away. I feel like he has emotionally checked himself out.
We have always had a very strong marriage and communication now I feel like we have pretty much nothing.
I am a very strong person and I am very supportive of him. I never force him to talk about things if I can tell he is struggling. He knows I am always here for him and that I love him and that I am proud of him. I would do anything for him.
He puts on this front all the time and never wants to show flaws. He has just turned into this numb person that is selfish.
I don't know how to help him anymore. I don't want to talk about it with him especially over the computer.
I am starting to get nervous for his return I don't know how to deal with it or what to do to help him.
I know he has a lot of thoughts that are easily triggered. He cant sit still anymore. He always seems on edge and ready to snap. He is so negative and just turned mean.
I don't want him to be different he hasn't before but I have never seem him get this far. I just want to protect our daughter. He has had nightmares in the past that would turn physical to me nothing serious just putting his fist on my chest or on my head or yelling "get down".
He doesn't believe in therapy, or medication and the most important thing is he doesn't believe in PTSD. I on the other hand do. He just says everyone can control their thoughts. I think he is starting to lose control though. He doesn't even react when I say something sweet.
I am worried and I need some major advice and lots of support.
Sorry this is so long.
Thanks everyone
My name is Chelsea. I am new to this site so I have no idea what I am doing or if I am doing it right. I am an Army wife to a wonderful husband who is currently deployed for the 3rd time. We have a 10 month old daughter. He left 10 days after she was born. So needless to say he hasn't spent much time with her at all. Anyways, I know he has had a hard time with past deployments but he seemed to get better over the last 8 years. Now all of the sudden he is a different man. We talk daily on the computer on a video call. Everything has changed:
He has no emotion on his face. He doesn't get excited about anything. He has no emotion at all. Before he would get stressed out and even get angry at times. Which always silently bothered me that he would lose his temper so fast but now any emotion would be better than none. He doesn't get excited when our daughter says da da.
He doesn't even want to discuss anything but the things he wants to do and the things he wants to do have nothing to do with my daughter and I. All the things he wants to do are things that involve shooting guns at a range and joining competitions. This is very unlike him. I do understand that he is preparing himself for his return home in the next few weeks. This is typically normal for him but not to this extreme.
He is so negative towards me. Its almost like he is pushing me away. I feel like he has emotionally checked himself out.
We have always had a very strong marriage and communication now I feel like we have pretty much nothing.
I am a very strong person and I am very supportive of him. I never force him to talk about things if I can tell he is struggling. He knows I am always here for him and that I love him and that I am proud of him. I would do anything for him.
He puts on this front all the time and never wants to show flaws. He has just turned into this numb person that is selfish.
I don't know how to help him anymore. I don't want to talk about it with him especially over the computer.
I am starting to get nervous for his return I don't know how to deal with it or what to do to help him.
I know he has a lot of thoughts that are easily triggered. He cant sit still anymore. He always seems on edge and ready to snap. He is so negative and just turned mean.
I don't want him to be different he hasn't before but I have never seem him get this far. I just want to protect our daughter. He has had nightmares in the past that would turn physical to me nothing serious just putting his fist on my chest or on my head or yelling "get down".
He doesn't believe in therapy, or medication and the most important thing is he doesn't believe in PTSD. I on the other hand do. He just says everyone can control their thoughts. I think he is starting to lose control though. He doesn't even react when I say something sweet.
I am worried and I need some major advice and lots of support.
Sorry this is so long.
Thanks everyone
