If I Were A Friend of Mine

[Moonshadow]

A recent post by Dylan got me thinking,
"If I were a friend of mine, what would I think of myself?"

Moonshadow is an independent woman. She is quiet and a little shy, but a good friend to have. She will give you her honest opinion, even if it's not what you want to hear.

Moon has a great sense of humor, a nice smile and an infectious laugh, more of a giggle, really. She finds humor in many things, even her own idiosyncrasies.

Moonshadow is a compassionate woman, especially towards children and animals. She wants to rescue every animal that comes along, and always has many animals in her home. She is great with kids and a good mother. It shows in her own children.

She will not eat meat, and is a wonderful cook and baker. She wears black, and hates the cold.

Moon is not a very organized person, nor a great housekeeper. She is easily distracted, forgets things, misplaces things and gets lost, often in her own thoughts.

Moonshadow is uneasy in crowds. If Moon is around a crowd, she will be off on her own, watching. She does not like to be touched, especially by strangers. Don't try to hug her, unless you're a close friend. She will not be alone in a room with a man, unless she knows and trusts that man very well.

Moonshadow has overcome many obstacles. Sometimes, she gets sad, and needs to be alone.

Moon is an artist, though few have seen her work. She loves to dance, and will often immerse herself in music.

Moonshadow reads a lot, and is very knowledgeable about many things. She's not afraid to ask questions or seek the truth, even if the truth is difficult.

Moon is a very loyal friend, but if you betray her, that friendship is over.

Moonshadow is skeptical of things that cannot be explained. She does not believe in things that require blind faith. A friend of hers was once asked if Moon believed in God, to which that friend answered, "No, but she's keeping a mental checklist of things to yell at him about, just in case."

Okay, your turn. What would you think of yourself, if you were your friend?

 

[pandora]

i HAVE BEEN TOLD BY MY THERAPIST TO DO this many times.....I need to come back to this post as my headache is too bad to think and I want to be logic...I think this will be the beginning of a great thread. We are all too hard on ourselves.

 

[Grama-Herc]

I am going to have to think about this. My first impression was questionable, but I will be back and post my true feeling

 

[No-Twitch-Tabitha]

Gotta think about it. I'm not exactly my own friend.

 

[linasmom]

Gotta think about it. I'm not exactly my own friend.

:rofl: me neither - but I like this post and really need to think on this.

 

[xxarmywifexx]

Ack! *runs away*

Too close to home moon! WoW, recently I've had to think about what my bestfriend must see in our relationship...guess we are our own enemies.

I'm have to think on this. Great thread :thumbs-up

 

[Moonshadow]

It seems I really struck a chord with a lot of people. It was a very difficult subject to broach, but that made me all the more sure that I needed to do it.

This thread took me all day to prepare. I don't know how many times I wrote a bunch of stuff, then erased the whole page. By the time I was done, I was emotionally exhausted.

I really had to take a step back, and see myself from a totally neutral standpoint. Even still, I'm not really at ease with what I wrote, but I'm trying very hard to like myself, or at least accept myself for who I am. It's difficult, after hating myself for so long. It's a knee-jerk reaction, to only see the worst in me.

I look forward to seeing others get over their own difficulties, and write out what they would think of themselves, from a neutral standpoint.

 

[JustJane]

Jane is her own worst enemy. She believes every SOB story she hears and will go way out on a limb to help anyone with a well-versed tale of woe. She does this when she herself is pinching pennies to get by.

Jane doesn't know the difference between a good person and a bad person. She believes everything she hears unless she has personal knowledge on a subject. Even then, she rarely defends the truth because she has been proven wrong so many times she lost count. As a result, she doesn't trust her own experiences as fact.

Every ounce of giving that she has will go into all her friendships, but once someone hurts her feelings, that friendship comes to a screeching halt and she never looks back. Apologies don't count. Unfortunately, she has completely isolated herself as a result of this and the only true friends she allows herself are generally not humans.

Religion is a difficult concept for Jane. She believes there is a God but disbelieves the Bible or any version thereof was written accurately with the true Word of God. She believes, as a therapist once explained to her, that the Bible was written by ignorant men who did not themselves understand the subject they penned. The therapist is a PhD and therefore an authority, right? Jane believes there was a man named Jesus who walked as a true man and who died, begging forgiveness for the people who brutally killed him. She is not certain that forgiveness was intended across the board for all who would come after that incident.

Gut instincts are of no value to Jane. She has been proven wrong so many times she doesn't trust her own instincts. But the number of traumas she has endured as a result of trusting the wrong person/people have taken their toll on her. She is uneasy getting into someone's car to go someplace too far to walk home. She trusts her dogs' impressions of people and tries to take her dog everywhere, watching for hesitations or signs of doubt. When her dog isn't allowed someplace, she is on her own and that thought terrifies her.

Jane puts no value on the "learned behaviors" that don't apply to her. How many places to sit does one person need in any given room? Her house reflects that it is the home of a solitary person, with no additional seating for a visitor.

It's hard to be Jane's friend. She doesn't trust anyone any more. Looking into her past, I can't say I blame her.

 

[blue_eyed_angel]

blue_eyed_angel is a very independent woman!! She will not rely on others to provide the things she needs in life. As she did this for 6 1/2yrs with her ex-fiance.

blue_eyed_angel is a very passionate person when it comes to things that she believes in. She believes that everything that happens to a person during their lifetime happens for a reason. Whether people completely understand it or not. She also believes in Karma. She thinks that people don't get to heaven based on what their religion is. A person has to have faith and just believe.

blue_eyed_angel doesn't believe in arguing with anyone. A disagreement here and there but never arguing. Arguing doesn't solve anything.

blue_eyed_angel gets highly stressed sometimes.

blue_eyed_angel is a very loyal person. Unless you do something to betray her.

blue_eyed_angel is very smart. And willing to learn everything she can about life or anything.

blue_eyed_angel is a very outspoken person. If there is something that she feels strongly about she is not afraid to speak her mind whether or not it causes people to get mad or to lose a friend over.

blue_eyed_angel loves to draw, paint, and take pictures. She loves being outdoors!

blue_eyed_angel has a hard time trusting people! She questions people's motives and intentions with her. She is a very good people reader.

blue_eyed_angel doesn't believe everything that she is told. She has no problem questioning people if she thinks that they are lying.

blue_eyed_angel hopes to become a great wife and mother someday. She loves children.

blue_eyed_angel don't think people should view the world as just black and white. She believes their is a whole gray area that some people just aren't willing to accept.

blue_eyed_angel is a very quiet person until you get to know her.

blue_eyed_angel loves to laugh!!!

blue_eyed_angel believes life is to short to take everything so serious. Granted she does know when to be serious and when she can let loose and be herself.

blue_eyed_angel loves her family and would do anything for any one of them. She would even give you the shirt off her back or her last dollar if she knew you needed it.

It's not hard being blue_eyed_angel's friend. Just be loyal and don't lie to her or betray her.

 

[Seeking_Nirvana]

Tammy has equal amounts of compassion as she does anger.
Tammy is learning how to change her anger style from passive-aggressive to assertive.
Tammy is very loyal.
Tammy is learning to love herself 100% instead of being stuck at 99%.
Tammy is forgiving herself for misdeeds.
Tammy is not scared to move forward in her healing process.
Tammy can admit when she is wrong and apologize.
Tammy can be her worst enemy or best friend.
Tammy will help anyone who is willing to help themselves.
Tammy tries to be honest with herself so she doesn't stay stuck in denial.
Tammy has trust issues, but it working on them.
Tammy tends to blurt out what ever is in her mind. Character flaw I'm working on.
Tammy tends to over react and jump to conclusions. Issue that I'm working on.
Tammy is not judgmental.
Tammy has an open mind to just about everything.
Tammy wishes she would have used the word "I" instead of starting each sentence with my name.

 

[Grama-Herc]

Grama Herc does not make a good friend. She is inconsistent with her words and actions. For heaven sakes, don't question her intelligence or indicate in any way that she is not smart.

It is necessary to tread lightly around her and watch what you say. The slightest sign of anger or hostility and she will disappear forever. She has severed many friendships over some very petty statements made by "ex friends".

She will agree to go with you someplace and then back out at the last minute. She will make plans with you to do things all the time but never follows through. Most times she will call and cancel but she usually will just stand you up without any consideration for you or your feelings.

Grama Herc is just to scared and unstable to be a good friend

 

[Marlene]

If I were a friend of Lisa’s…what would I think:

The most important things in Lisa’s life is her family. Everything comes a distant second to her husband, daughters and grandson.

Lisa is a dedicated friend and will always be there for another friend. Betrayals are met with a swift end to the friendship, though. And there’s no going back.

It’s difficult for Lisa to make friends and to trust.

Lisa has a very twisted sense of humor. She tends to find humor in odd places and circumstances and this makes some people uncomfortable. Laughing is one of her favorite things to do.

Finding beauty in people, places and things is one of Lisa’s favorite things to do. There’s beauty just about everywhere if you just look hard enough.

Lisa wears a lot of different masks for different people. She’ll be who you need her to be without ever revealing who she really is.

Lisa is intelligent and has always enjoyed learning new things and doing research to find out as much as she can. Learning just for the sake of learning is great fun for Lisa.

Lisa can be hurt very, very easily.

Lisa has learned that she’s allowed to give herself that quiet sanctuary place where she doesn’t have to speak or do anything she doesn’t want to. It’s become a necessity for her.

Lisa enjoys the quiet contemplation of meditation with yoga and a good, heart-pounding, sweaty sword fight in fencing as well.

Lisa is learning who Lisa really is and what she will and won’t accept in her life.

Lisa is fighting hard for her recovery and healing.

People have always come to Lisa for help, for advice. Lisa has always given it willingly as she believes that one of the reasons people are put on earth is to help one another. She’s always found it funny that no one who’s asked for help has ever asked if she’s needed help.

Lisa is a shoe addict. She figures that life’s too short not to wear cute shoes.

Lisa is impatient and wishes that all of the things she needs to do in her life to help with healing would have been done yesterday. Patience is a cruel task master for Lisa.

Lisa truly hopes that, like the song says, the best of her is still hiding up her sleeve.