Death Impending Death Of Relative Who Confirmed My Abuse

[recoveringfromptsd]

I have a cousin who when I told her about my abuse when I was 5 she confirmed that the person I figured out was the abuser was the right person. She also told me about abuse in her family, as well as abuse by my abuser that affected other cousins and my sister which I confirmed she was right when I was in the hospital.

Now she has terminal multiple myeloma and has been give less than a month to live.

I was close to her in many ways.

I wish this was not so. As she is the only one besides her daughter that I have had any contact with.

I am getting pretty sad about this. Life can be so cruel

 

[NightSky]

:( I'm sorry.

 

[recoveringfromptsd]

I sometimes wish it was me instead of her. If only I could change places with her.

 

[EveHarrington]

:hug:

 

[recoveringfromptsd]

You guys are great. While I usually cringe when someone tries to hug me, but you guys can virtual hug me anytime.

 

[NightSky]

Hang in there. You have life to live. Allow the grief. It sounds like a very big loss that could make you feel alone, but you're not alone.

 

[recoveringfromptsd]

Saw this relative on Wednesday, very difficult to deal with, we were told she has 5 weeks tops. The hospital were not doing anything for her mind, the room was void of stimulation, and boredom and the need for human contact was an issue.

I am not sure how I am going to deal with her passing, as it apparently is going to occur about the same time I have problems because of an abuse event anniversary.

I am just going to have to take it day by day.

 

[recoveringfromptsd]

Have been thinking about this most of the night, getting a but depressed by it, feeling like I want to shutdown.

 

[Freedomfighter]

I have a cousin who when I told her about my abuse when I was 5 she confirmed that the perso...

So sorry for your pain, all my relatives do not even do me the favor to believe in the childhood abuse that I experienced, not a single one. They want to ignore it, but the fact is that most families are affected by some kind of abuse. That is something that was new to me but it is just so common.

Lost another beautiful person in my family who had moved away and I wish so much that I could have been a support for this relative before he took his life two days ago. Was not aware that he was in trouble, he chose not to tell anyone in his family of his troubles. Had trouble finding work, he worked 15 years in the Armed Forces, and a heartless landlord sent him an eviction notice because he could not find work right away.......

What kind of heartless sick animal sees that an honest hardworking person is in some trouble and sends out an eviction notice right before christmas? That must have given him the last push into his own death. I am so mad at the callousness of people who only see dollar notes in front of their eyes.
So mad this beautiful person is gone, one of the best people one would have ever met, it is a crying shame.

 

[recoveringfromptsd]

I just wish December did not exist, on top of this relative dying, my sisters son reported last night his housemate and best friend who we were also close to had died 2 weeks ago, when you add that to bad things happened to me on my birthday (dec 18) thru new years. I could do without this month even existing.

 

[Ronin]

I relate quite a lot @recoveringfromptsd.

There's an up side, January is very surely coming, & you're getting through this.

 

[recoveringfromptsd]

I just got word her death is any time now.