Undiagnosed Introductions

[MelissaKH68]

Good morning all. I am new to the site. I am here because I have had cancer and my doctor said I could be suffering from PTSD, but also my bf is in the service and he does suffer from PTSD. I am not sure what I am supposed to be doing for him or myself on any of this.
Any conversation and help would be greatly appreciated.

 

[Deleted member 20280]

Welcome @MelissaKH68 to the forum firstly and :hug:s

I would approach you Dr again and seek a proper diagnosis first and foremost, getting an official diagnosis is crucial.

Take a good trawl around the forum as there are many threads and people here who have survived similar and we have numerous military Veterans suffering with PTSD here, myself included as well as civilian survivors and supporters of both.

I wish you every success in your personal recovery if PTSD is what is diagnosed.

My kindest regards

Laurie

 

[MelissaKH68]

Laurie,
Thank you very much, there are a lot of different stories out to read up on. I think I will enjoy all the information from this site. I am excited to be here.

 

[Deleted member 28403]

Welcome to the forums! Sending you hugs if you accept :hug:

Cancer sounds terrifying to get through, and I'm guessing possibility exists, many have gotten PTSD from surgeries and similar.

I am a sufferer, and I can say that what you should be doing varies. A hug is often helpful, but still, depends. My supporter often says that she doesn't know what to do... Neither do I, but mostly we can craft up something that works!

There are much more experienced members that can give meaninful advice, but options come to you.

Interesting thing comes when both are sufferers, and it's something that many have opinions on, better or worse, all depends on situation. Aiming for understanding or safety?

As Laurie said, this forum is quite resourceful and a lot of knowledge can be found here.

Well, good luck and hopefully this place helps you!

 

[MelissaKH68]

Thank you so very much. I think this place will be a god send for me.

 

[Justmehere]

Cancer sucks. Glad you are here! Keep up the good fight and welcome to the forum. :hug:

 

[Lucycat]

Hi and welcome @MelissaKH68

As a cancer sufferer are you being supported by one of the cancer charities? - Macmillan are really good. They offer counseling and psychological support, and I think that is vital regardless of whether you get an official diagnosis of PTSD. If you are not in touch with them I would recommend you ask your oncologist/ cancer specialist to refer you for psychological support. All units in the UK offer such services.

Best wishes,
Lucy

 

[myheart]

Welcome Melissa!!! What a beautiful photo is the first thing I want to say! :) I think your just being here is the beginning of doing something helpful to both yourself and your husband!!! This is a wonderful forum and has helped me more than I could ever say! I respect the military very much. If you get a chance, and if appropriate, you can tell him that you "met" someone who asked you to thank him for serving our country! And of course, by being his wife, I thank you too! No man or woman is an island!

 

[myheart]

P.S. I just read your post again and read that he is your BF, I still mean everything I said for you both! I sometimes post furiously without reading carefully! hehe! :)

 

[Nighthawk]

Welcome to the forum :) I am sorry you have had to fight cancer the stress of what you have been through could make ones PTSD active. I encourage you to get diagnosed as this is not a disorder one wants to have.

 

[MelissaKH68]

I appreciate all the replies. I feel good about being here on this forum. Kim500, its ok we live together so it is like being married. I have an oncology appointment this Thursday so I will talk to her about things also. I did get a grant from the hospital that did most of my surgery. I still have massive bills but I am working on them. I have been cancer free for 4 years, but there is a lump I will be having checked this week. You would not believe the anxiety that causes. It goes through your head all the time, what happens if it comes back. UUUUGGGHHHH!!!! So otherwise I feel great, all of my cancer stuff is done and I am still here :).

 

[RussH]

First, welcome to the forum. The best advice I could offer would be to browse the sight and get some understanding of PTSD. It will help you see how it affects you and your significant other.

PTSD is difficult to deal with and it can really affect your relationships with others. It requires, at times, a great deal of understanding on both the part of the sufferer and the supporter.

I look forward to getting to know you here on line, and wish you well on your journey toward healing.