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I would be surprised if he didn’t have abandonment issues with that past, leading me back to attachment. I don’t think that he is intentionally being manipulative. Also, I think that if you want this relationship to work you might look into therapy, an older mentor or pastor. Sounds like some very hurtful things went on between you both in the past.I can see why you’d get the impression that he is being manipulative but I know he is genuinely hurt because I used some of the most personal things he’s ever said to me as ammo because he made it seem as if he was back with his ex... it’s a long story. We broke up, he sent me photos of him with his ex and I used whatever I could to hurt him, we got back together and now he still hold onto those things and says I meant them all even tho I know in my heart they aren’t true, I just knew that’s how he viewed himself. It was wrong of me. It’s just a really tough spot to be in. He holds onto a lot of past traumas of his mother giving him up as a child, then finding out by taking a dna ancestory kit his father who raised him isn’t his biological father.