Although FL is the only place I've ever lived I have no desire to go back to!
Me either! And i grew up on the gulf coast but its so different here. Id take Kansas black ice over Orlando drivers ANY DAY! Id love to go back to KC but my pain cant handle the cold and my therapist is here.
@Whispering_Truth, I agree but my 75 yr old father is a complicated mess whom loves to use guilt trips and those work on me and work well. With him comes his wife but the remainder are purged out of my life.
Physical presence has helped with the huffing which is the reason they moved back in in the first place but that was 2 yrs ago and now ive proved i can handle MASSIVE stress without defaulting to that so its well overtime for them to move on out but getting him & his wife to move without hating me doesnt seem possible.
On the dog front: I found the highest rated daycare & boarding place which looks very nice, the yard is 12,000 sq ft with man made tunnels in the ground and hills (he'd love that as I cant physically run him right now) and AC huge wooden kennel like places. Customer reviews are all 5 star loved it with all saying their dog was tired after running all day so wasnt restless at home. Its $25 a day & just about 2 or so miles away. The next one which is way further and not near as nice (27 foot runs) is $27 a day. The first one looked great. Only issue is they are only opened until 7pm and currently I work until 9pm and on my new schedule starting Mon in working until 11pm and there are no "night daycares". Damn, I got all excited for nothing.
I would do this if I were you, and this is JUST me so this is just food for thought. It sounds like you're being manipulated by well... everyone. IF I were in the scenario, I would tell dad he has until August 31 to move out.
Problem. If he moves, even if I cancel my cable completely and just use a HDMI antenna and Amazon & Netflix on my blueray (and maybe a Tivo box because I have to record my shows :( ) I wont make enough. I live on the border of the getto, closer to work is more expensive and smaller apartments. Overtime when I can but that leaves my dog longer. I may have to default to rover.com and let someone come into my space. Oh god i dont want that but i dont know what else to do if he moves. Its an apartment complex, no doggie door or anything. That is the only reason I let it go on this long....i need his rent money. Its only $425 a month (everything included) but it does pay the $200 cable/internet/home phone (phone for them) bill and some of the rent or other bills and more. I can save so if my car breaks down i can fix it or if it breaks for good i can now buy another.
He is also saving money so its helping us both but without his check each month after my savings is gone i will sink. And my therapist and i talked about looking for a roommate on craigs list and that terrifies me due to many reasons. My terror of people, the criags list killer, the horror my ex roommates put me through. I want to know the person but dont know anyone looking for a roommate to move in with me or me with them and i dont know who would want 2 cats and a dog, the dog being a pitbull which isnt allowed at my apartment complex but they look over it being ive never been late on rent in 4 yrs.
I dont know what else I can do to be honest. Even with Tv or internet (so my phone would be my only TV), i cant do it without working all the overtime I can and leaving my dog for way way longer. I dont know what to do.
I cant take on that stress right now. I'll just deal with them the best I can and isolate myself the most I can. I honestly dont know what else to do unless i can find a good person im willing to let in my house from rover.com that can stay with him or come over to let him out a few times. I'll look around on there, call the ones that have the most returning customers and highest ratings and see if they can do that at night.
Im googling for dog daycare at night, dog daycare 24 hrs, wording different ways and i found one place, in Orlando (30 mins down 1-4 in good traffic, an hr or more if you hit it at the wrong time) and it had review of dogs being hurt and injuried and isolated seen on the webcams, coming back with pee all over them. No thank you. Also pitbulls are severly regulated here and most places wont allow a pit. I tell the apartment he is mixed but you can tell he is a pit:
Anyway, Im rambling.
The second thing I would do: set aside an hour every day for art. I don't care if you just look at other art that inspires you or you doodle as long as you get used to that dedicated hour where you THINK about creating. It will come back that way.
I think
@desiderata310 has a great idea with respect to your art. Look at it as "therapy" and take it as seriously as you do that.
My art isnt really coming as my brain is too flooded, spinning, and i cant seem to draw or paint anything worth showing anyone. I cant seem to draw anything at all. Its rather frustrating. Part of my therapy and my therapist wants me start drawing & painting again and tried by telling me throw paint on a canvas and that didnt work. Im trying though. I cant much doodle. I do look at art but ive always done that and appreciated it. My therapist advise me to try to copy one just to get me going and i tried though i dont much like copying art but didnt work anyway. If it did i would of made it my own. I have one piece in my head that i REALLY want to get on paper but havent been able to yet. Trying though.
ETA: Sorry about the typos; on a phone that is typing slow for whatever reason typing between and while on calls at work so sorry if its all over the place; hard to split my attention but i think ive corrected all the typos.
