Childhood Is it more common to remember or not?

[Mach123]

I had no recognition of CSA until 4 months ago.I always remembered the physical abuse from my ch...

When I first said CSA to my wife, who was the first person I mentioned it to, she said, "There were a lot of things that made sense to me right away when I heard that."

 

[Emotional girl]

@Mach123 It is strange how everything makes sense now.Before 4 months ago I had never even thought of CSA but then the trigger that I had I knew instantly that something had happened to me as a child.It was like somebody had come along and turned on a switch.
I kept saying to my psychologist nobody is going to believe me because I am in my 40s and I have just remembered and he said I believe you.
Through both therapy and reading information on the internet over the last couple months I have realised that CSA has a impact on every aspect of my life.

 

[Mach123]

@Mach123 It is strange how everything makes sense now.Before 4 months ago I h...

Yes, I was in my forties. I know how it is. : ) I was in bed and I was thinking about "one of those memories" and I got up and walked into the other room where my wife was and I said, "I think this means I was sexually abused." That was the beginning.

 

[Emotional girl]

It is good that we have forums like this to make us realise we are not alone.
I think in your 40s is quite a common time for repressed memories to come back to people from what my psychologist has told me.
One psychiatrist told me he knew someone in their 70s who started to remember.
I wish you all the very best @Mach123 and anytime you want to talk just send me a message.

 

[Amber321]

@Mach123 It is strange how everything makes sense now.Before 4 months ago I h...

I’m with you. I’m 46 and just recently realized I was probably molested as a child. All the pieces started to fit together. I have flashbacks, but no clear memories yet. I do have body memories. I’m arranging therapy. I really hope that will help me remember.

 

[Emotional girl]

I hope that therapy helps you to move forward @Amber321 .
At the start the body memories were the main indicator for me and then little fragments of my memories came back bit by bit.
I have always had nightmares but was confused about what they were about but now I understand what they were trying to tell me.

 

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It’s hard to know what aspects of your memory you can trust when you’ve gone so many years without any memory of it.

For me those repressed memories made my life make sense all the way down to the itty bitty details. Choices I had made, etc. I even found that a road I drove down to meet my husband for the first time was the same name of the one my father had driven on numerous times. And as I drove down the road as an adult I had the feeling that I had been on a road with the same name years ago. Over twenty five years later, I had the memory come to me about the road's name.

more dissociation was used to deal with the abuse or catastrophic event, the less likely I was to remember it.

Yes, the same for me.

As soon as I started to remember my CSA everything started to make sense to me now.

Yes, everything!!! Including places I had chosen to go, books I had been drawn to read, etc., as my mind was trying to tell the rest of me something had happened.