Is this true?

[Deleted member 45408]

I was very controlled as a kid..i had to look a certain way....I wasn't allowed out. I was sexually abused..i basically wasn't allowed to make any decisions...then I became 18...and was free...but has never felt right ...I am 22 now and I have 3 kids and stress...which is making my ptsd act up...I think... I'm afraid someone can get guardianship of me..like a family or friend....my husband says I have to b incompetent for it to happen..im afraid.maybe I am...even though I take care of myself and kids..i just feel like I cant b free...cant b possible...I cant look how I want or do what I want..there must b some loop hole.....is this true?

 

[Supervixn]

Loop hole for what specifically?

I don't see the likelihood of anyone wanting to bust into your life and take on your three youngins. It's an overwhelming thought. Plus you have a husband who I'm sure wouldnt allow it. Why would they want to take your kids from you? Where is this coming from?

 

[Deleted member 45408]

guardianship of me..not kids...I feel like there has to b a way for somone to control me1

 

[Supervixn]

Oh gotcha. Okay. What makes you think they will or that they have plans to?

 

[Deleted member 45408]

I just feel someone will try to get guardianship so they can control my life..like my family..i read u can just apply for guardianship of a person...

then get a court order to see if they are competent or not..i am competent..but I'm paranoid I would get unlucky and b called incompetent and they could control me again,,,i just don't see how I can do whatever I want

 

[Supervixn]

Has anyone threatened to do this? Don't you think your husband would protect you and not allow that to happen? We can worry all we want about things that could happen, but never will happen. It just causes unease in the present to worry about things that may not ever happen. But i understand your worries. Are you on meds or in therapy atm?

 

[Deleted member 45408]

anxiety meds.. with kids too hard to get to therapy and I cost online..but its hard for me to know .....are we actually allowed to do whatever we want as adults as long as its not illegal???

 

[Supervixn]

How close are you with your family? You may want to create distance between yourself and them until this paranoia eases. I'm not saying you are wrong in your paranoia... I imagine these are very scary threatening thoughts to have and I'm sorry this is bothering you. But you're an adult. You have more say over yourself now than they do. You're not powerless. You're not going to be taken over, so to speak, without a lot of solid evidence that it needs to happen... they have to PROVE a lot of things. But you have a spouse and kids and that makes it much harder for anyone to mess with that legally. They'd want to hear from your husband who I imagine would have your back and defend you. He lives with you and sees you the most... the courts don't want to involve themselves in major things like this that arent neccessary. Have faith. Things are going to be okay.

 

[Deleted member 45408]

I feel ppl can take me to court if they don't like my decesions

 

[Supervixn]

What have you done that would be grounds to take over your life? Sounds like if you believe they want to do this and are capable of it, that you should create distance. Don't give them ammunition. Don't give them things to use against you.

 

[Deleted member 45408]

nothing..never been hospitalized or anything...I just cant believe I am free... I was controlled so long....just doesn't seem possible

 

[Supervixn]

You're free, girl. Don't let them enslave your mind now that they don't have control over you physically. You'll feel controlled by them as long as you give them that power... your worry... etc. What has your attention and focus has mastered you. Don't let them master you anymore. Especially now because they CAN'T control you, you're out of that environment now so try to let yourself be free mentally too. Let the thoughts come to you, acknowledge they are there, and let those thoughts go. You don't have to feed into the fear. You don't have to hold onto these thoughts. Just focus on being the best you that you can be. Your decisions are no ones business. You got this!