Oh sorry, you may have told me before... it can be hard for me to keep everyone’s stories straight, plus things can change, post to post, so I try and ask instead of assume. I was just trying to figure out what kind of contact/relationship you currently have with him.
It’s hard to make heads or tails of what’s happened.... I know that my guy is still trying to figure out the basics with me, and we’ve been together 6 months, with 6 months of friendship before that. Even we as sufferers have a hard time knowing what’s going on with us, and we live with ptsd 24/7!
Back to what you originally said in the first post, it may be that he can’t handle the vulnerability that comes with a relationship, but he could handle having you in his circle of friends. Yes, it sounds crazy.... The first few months I was with my boyfriend I kept telling him that we should just be friends. The friend zone is safe! Of course in my version of the friend zone there is still intimacy and sex.....it makes sense to me! But, try being the guy on the other side.....he doesn’t understand up from down; left from right in terms of the dynamics between us. It’s quite possible that your guy invited you out with a group of friends because this was SAFE to him. He might have wanted a safe interaction with you, and this was one way to do it.....keep you close, but in a safe way. To you it may feel like an insult or even rejection, but it’s possible that he didn’t mean it in this way. I’m not discounting your feelings in the least, as I understand why you’re upset. I’m just trying to offer up another perspective from someone who has childhood trauma, too. :hug:
