Is Very Upset And Triggered Big Time

[munkinmama]

I was reading a post in a group I am in on Facebook and it upset me. This guy was going off on people and saying that PTSD is only military and we civilians can not possibly get PTSD. The more people tried to reason with this guy the more hostile he got. He told everyone who is a civilian that they are messed up in the head if they think they have PTSD. This was a huge trigger for me because it has taken years for me to feel like i am accepted and not treated like a monster for having PTSD. When i tried to report my family member for molesting me the police officer told me that he advised me not to go to court because I did not fight back ( because i was scared) that a judge would think i was enjoying it. Six months later I was raped it took me a year to even get the courage to report the rape which happened at school on school property during a school event. The officer who was in the school did little to take me seriously it took him 6 months to take my statement to SVU...why ? Because he had befriended my rapist. Finally after another 2 months he told me nothing could be done. Over two years ago as I sat in the CPS office being told my abusive ex husband was getting the kids. The worker then proceeded to tell me that because there was no "paper" trail i was lying about the abuse and tainting the foster parents which was causing them to treat my ex unfairly. I was in shock I wanted to say I am sorry i was isolated in the middle of nowhere with no working car or did not have a phone to call for help. I am sorry the closest neighbor lived 2 miles away and at the time my kids were 4,3,1. As far as the situation with the foster parents CPS was the ones who encouraged we get close and work together and then they turned on both of us. The post was a huge trigger as i said as you see i have a history of people not believing me. The group is suppose to be a support group.

 

[digger]

I get why it's upset you, but maybe try and switch your focus to the fact that, on this occasion, he was one person and there were a number of people putting a different point across. Try to take it as validation from them instead of invalidation from him.

 

[ghotiff]

Denial, invalidation and minimization are triggers for me also.

What might help would be to read older supportive posts here. Remembering support you felt here when they were first posted might help drag you away from the Facebook negativity.

 

[munkinmama]

I spent some cuddle time with my Service Dog. She helped to calm me down. I just laid down with her on the floor

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Stay away from facebook. It will be the best decision you will ever make. Those people don't care about SUPPORT, they only care about their own damn agenda. You should have smacked him with the fact that there are MORE people with non-military PTSD than with military PTSD. (Yeah, he CAN NOT argue that one!) Let the idiot find whomever he wants to argue with, but don't be a part of it because you know he is wrong. People like that are stuck in their ways and sometimes its best to let them live in their naïve, hateful little worlds rather than try to get them to see the truth.

 

[greenleaf]

Yes, he's making a really blatant factual error; he's got serious problems with reality... I'm glad you have your service dog! Please give her a pat from me too.

 

[DharmaGirl]

I was also attacked on Facebook on a PTSD site. I will never go there again. There is a lot of hate on that site, and I am not interested in hate.

What kind of service dog do you have? I have a mastiff.

 

[munkinmama]

oh i did not participate in this madness only read about it. My Jellybean is a kuvasz, Maremma Sheepdog, Australian Shepard mix(lol try say that 10 times fast) Currently Jellybean is 6 months almost 7. OMG she has been a savior for me.

 

[DharmaGirl]

She is adorable! Nugget saved my life literally. She is awesome! I love the blaze on her nose.

 

[munkinmama]

The lady who i got her from was calling her Flower like the skunk in Bambie because of her blaze. LOL my kids won and named her Jellybean and at times she is a jumping Jellybean. I never stop being amazed at the power animals have. Jellybean started on her own i might add when she senses i am too anxious she will tug on the leash until i start moving and if i am out of it she will bark once.

 

[DharmaGirl]

There is nothing quite like an empathetic service dog. My dog is so empathetic, that she will go comfort my therapist, when he is stressed during a session. He doesn't know that's why she is pressing up against him. I can tell when he is stressed and he doesn't know it. He uses a chair with wheels, so when she presses against him, she ends up motoring him around the room. She is a big girl.

 

[KwanYingirl]

Facebook sucks. Don't even go there. I belonged to a PTSD group through a local hospital. One woman capitalized every session with her rants about some chick that broke up with her. The facilitator never stopped her or better yet kick her out. It was a colossal waste of time.