Relationship It Still Sucks, Even When You Know What To Expect.

[Sweetpea76]

Going through a high stress period with my vet. He is not lashing out or being rude... he is just withdrawing, and needs his alone time. I know enough to give him his space. I know full well he will be feeling better eventually. He has had times like this before. It still sucks, even though I know what to expect. I just needed to whine to people who understand. I miss my sweet guy.

 

[Nicolette]

Oh, I hear you Sweetpea76 - it sucks!!!

 

[Cult]

I am right there with you tonight, Sweetpea. My partner seems to be withdrawing ONLY from me. Makes sense in many ways but so so hurtful at the same time. Where do our needs go, you know? I feel your pain. Let's have a virtual margarita!

 

[Sweetpea76]

I know, right? I love him to death...I understand this is the nature of the beast... but that doesn't help me from being sulky about it at times. As long as I'm not sulky to him it's ok, I guess.

 

[Cult]

I need to remind myself sometimes that it's common for sufferers to blow off their partners while maintaining seemingly normal contact with others......isn't it???

 

[BewitchedBewildered]

It's what I deal with. He tried to explain once that he can suffer the people he has to in order to function, but otherwise doesn't want to "deal" with people at all. It hurts that I am included in that, but it is how it is with the man I love. I am dealing with distancing right now and it hurts and it's confusing and it's scary for me. I always wonder if this will be the time he doesn't come back. I guess that is not that helpful, but you are not alone.

 

[Cult]

It's actually very helpful. My partner is also distancing. Gone since Tuesday. I miss her so much and while I am keeping busy there is nobody I would rather be with than her. This is a lonely life. Having a hard time handling it. She will be home tomorrow, and I am happy about that.

 

[Sweetpea76]

Mine says that sometimes he has stronger reactions to me because he cares about me and what I think. With other people he just doesn't care what they think. I guess it makes sense... lucky us, huh?