Ironlady
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I glad you found a safe place to come to Nikie. Welcome and truly am sorry for all that you are facing alone. I'm glad your here.
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Hi Nikie,
Welcome to the forum.
Sorry that you are experiencing a bad patch at the moment.
The bad times pass and better times do return. It may be difficult to see it when things are bad, but they do get better.
There are things that you can work on alone and here on the forum.
First things to check out, in this order
Grounding (bringing yourself back to the present). There's a thread about it somewhere here.
Pete Walker's instructions for managing emotional flashbacks ( on Pete Walker's site)
Download the full audio book of " the mindful way through depression " from YouTube and begin listening in manageable chunks, say 10 or 15 minutes at a time.
You might have to try a few times, before you find it as YouTube keep taking it down. It's useful for far more than depression!
You've come to a great place by joining here.
Welcome to the forum.
Sorry that you are experiencing a bad patch at the moment.
The bad times pass and better times do return. It may be difficult to see it when things are bad, but they do get better.
There are things that you can work on alone and here on the forum.
First things to check out, in this order
Grounding (bringing yourself back to the present). There's a thread about it somewhere here.
Pete Walker's instructions for managing emotional flashbacks ( on Pete Walker's site)
Download the full audio book of " the mindful way through depression " from YouTube and begin listening in manageable chunks, say 10 or 15 minutes at a time.
You might have to try a few times, before you find it as YouTube keep taking it down. It's useful for far more than depression!
You've come to a great place by joining here.
Nikie,
Depending on your location, some of the traditional " healers" can be very effective, but you'd need to check them out very carefully first.
There was a study a good few years back that found better mental health outcomes in Nigeria compared to the west.
One of our African members here noted that where Nigeria is concerned, that could easily be true, the whole place is nuts!
Depending on your location, some of the traditional " healers" can be very effective, but you'd need to check them out very carefully first.
There was a study a good few years back that found better mental health outcomes in Nigeria compared to the west.
One of our African members here noted that where Nigeria is concerned, that could easily be true, the whole place is nuts!
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just need coping skills. Thanks. I will look at all this right now. Life will not get better for me lol. It will onky get worse .. This day is nearly over thank goodness for another day that has past... I don't use any chemical meds only herbs and spices and ozone if really bad. ... Thank you all so much for being so nice. I am actually crying my eyes out right now. Its to much hahaha.. ..
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Thanks ironlady you are great and I feel connected to you .. Being part of your hurt in some way ... And I am sos sorry for that..
Ironlady
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The feeling is mutual dear. And it makes me sad and sorry too. But at least we know we're not alone right? :) Anarchy gave you some great tools and advice! I hope you find them helpful. Big :hug: to you!
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Welcome and I hope you find this site helpful!
Hi Nikie,
When I first found this forum, I had only just discovered the concept of C-ptsd, and I felt like I had woken up as a character in one of Philip K Dick's stories, or like I'd taken the red pill in the matrix.
My memories were not what I thought they were, I was not what I thought I was.
Actions that I had made, suddenly appeared to have PTSD's dirty little fingerprints all over them. Those were things like quitting jobs, dumping partners, isolating, messing up projects.
I'd been told by a relationship therapist a few years earlier that it looked like I had PTSD. I didn't believe him, and never went back. It took me until last year to believe him.
You're probably feeling similar?
One of the wierd things to begin to understand, is that our perceptions can be influenced by our emotional states.
Before I go any further, I'd better state that "normal" people (all three of them) are characterised by distortions which prevent them attributing a lot of bad things to themselves, which they really do own
And they over attribute good things and success to themselves, which they really don't own. "Normality" is actually fairly nutty.
What Pete Walker and "the mindful way" will begin to explain, is how to spot when we are experiencing distortions due to our emotional states, and how to not act on those distortions.
Your feelings of pessimism for the future are likely to be at least partly (and perhaps wholly) dependant on your current emotional state. Mindfulness teaches you how to recognise those feelings, acknowledge them, and to not act on them and to not ruminate on them or be overwhelmed by them.
What part of S'ifrika are you in? ( very roughly, I don't want to blow your anonymity).
I spent a little bit of time working on coal in KZN and Mpumalanga in the mid 2000s.
When I first found this forum, I had only just discovered the concept of C-ptsd, and I felt like I had woken up as a character in one of Philip K Dick's stories, or like I'd taken the red pill in the matrix.
My memories were not what I thought they were, I was not what I thought I was.
Actions that I had made, suddenly appeared to have PTSD's dirty little fingerprints all over them. Those were things like quitting jobs, dumping partners, isolating, messing up projects.
I'd been told by a relationship therapist a few years earlier that it looked like I had PTSD. I didn't believe him, and never went back. It took me until last year to believe him.
You're probably feeling similar?
One of the wierd things to begin to understand, is that our perceptions can be influenced by our emotional states.
Before I go any further, I'd better state that "normal" people (all three of them) are characterised by distortions which prevent them attributing a lot of bad things to themselves, which they really do own
And they over attribute good things and success to themselves, which they really don't own. "Normality" is actually fairly nutty.
What Pete Walker and "the mindful way" will begin to explain, is how to spot when we are experiencing distortions due to our emotional states, and how to not act on those distortions.
Your feelings of pessimism for the future are likely to be at least partly (and perhaps wholly) dependant on your current emotional state. Mindfulness teaches you how to recognise those feelings, acknowledge them, and to not act on them and to not ruminate on them or be overwhelmed by them.
What part of S'ifrika are you in? ( very roughly, I don't want to blow your anonymity).
I spent a little bit of time working on coal in KZN and Mpumalanga in the mid 2000s.
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(Pete walker] .. :tdown:Its so much reading .. I will try. Realy hard. I did save the page you said. You do give a lot of advise thanks
Right now I feel like nothing .. Nobody. .. I do not even want to think about tomorrow. And its struggles. They are nothing i have a pretty perfect life I think. But :bag: I feel so trapped ... FS if you know.. Like KZN...
I am so tired I don't even know what PTSD / C-ptsd are. And it doenst matter cos I can change nothing if I knew....
You made me smile about the nutty normal people:)
Thank you. I am sorry I am so dump. I realy will read that page on mindfulness ... I actualy feel scared to be me again. I dunno. She was a bit I dunno.. I feel like this mentel shit for nealy 2 and 1/2 years ..... time is passing and I don't realize it my son was small today he is big like taller than me :cry: I f*cked up there life's so mush
I am saying to much sorry. Better sent or deleted
Right now I feel like nothing .. Nobody. .. I do not even want to think about tomorrow. And its struggles. They are nothing i have a pretty perfect life I think. But :bag: I feel so trapped ... FS if you know.. Like KZN...
I am so tired I don't even know what PTSD / C-ptsd are. And it doenst matter cos I can change nothing if I knew....
You made me smile about the nutty normal people:)
Thank you. I am sorry I am so dump. I realy will read that page on mindfulness ... I actualy feel scared to be me again. I dunno. She was a bit I dunno.. I feel like this mentel shit for nealy 2 and 1/2 years ..... time is passing and I don't realize it my son was small today he is big like taller than me :cry: I f*cked up there life's so mush
I am saying to much sorry. Better sent or deleted
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Hi @lostforgottensoul, just hover your mouse over any flag you want, and you can read what country it is.:tup:
lostforgottensoul
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Im on my phone when in this site, Samsung Galaxy S5, no private PCs at the moment (weird since I build PCs lol) but thank you for the info ;)
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