Relationship Just a question for supporters/suffers

[shimmerz]

Tell him to get therapy for that along with his ptsd.

See and that is just it. If this has happened a few times prior, it makes me very suspicious that it was THIS time that he decided to 'say sorry'. That either means he didn't mean sorry the other times, or he recognized he had to press the 'oh shit' button because you meant business this past time.

Also, he had a T; and didn't think enough of you to talk to T about the other incidents because he didn't want you to have to put up with his behaviour anymore? Nope. Just this time. When there were consequences for him. And I bet the meeting was about poor him.

I wouldn't bite. I wouldn't even nibble. Have a drama free life my friend. Life is too short for this shit. Especially when you see it coming.

 

[Justmehere]

One can struggle with jealousy without getting into screaming matches at 3am, physical “altercations” (aka domestic violence) and trying to physically remove your property from you (and your ability to call for help.)

The fact that he’s trying this hard to get you back, doesn’t actually seem like he’s able to do well without trying to control or manipulate you.

If he is really committed to change, and ready to change, he would be able to more easily let you go and spend some time on his recovery without trying to get you to do this or that.

In trauma therapy, things usually get worse before they get better. Now, his a month into treatment after a physical altercation, would be the worst possible time to try to make this relationship work, for both of you.

Give him the gift of some space to figure out how to be a bit more secure in his own self before adding a relationship into it.