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Anthony, on July 29, she took me out to dinner for my birthday. Things were not right, but they weren't horrible either. She did not want to discuss our situation and I asked her "Are you just pushing me away because you don't want to be the one who ends the relationship, you want me to be forced to do it?" She started crying and said that what I am saying would not make her life better and that she is so confused, she doesn't know what to do. Another thing that started this extreme tension was her receiving social security checks for her daughter, since the kid's dad died. She said she has fears of moving out of her parent's house again and failing. She basically thinks everything will fail. She went on and on about her worries and I just listened. In addition to the nightmares and trouble sleeping due to her ex dying, 2 weeks before that she got back in contact with a long time childhood friend - the girl died of a strange seizure a few days later. When we talked face to face, she said she didn't want the relationship to end and she is trying to deal with all of these horrible thoughts in her head. Since the conversation was going in circles, I let it end. When I left, she gave me a huge hug and a big kiss. She held on to me as if she didn't want me to leave, but she said she was exhausted and had to sleep. I didn't hear from her again until a few days later and that's when she texted me that she couldnt keep doing this to me and she's so sorry. She must have written 5 or 6 messages telling me how sorry she is for causing me so much pain and how good I was for her. I sent her the letter in the mail, but we have not spoken in person in over a week and the only contact was us "breaking up" in texts last tuesday.
I have an unrelated question. If she has Post-Traumatic Syndrome Disorder, would she be able to function with co-workers? I ask this because she went out drinking with them the other night. She has her child every day except the first Saturday of the month and I can understand her wanting to go out and drink, try to forget what's happening. But it also makes me feel strange that she would go out drinking with co-workers while shutting me out. Would her behavior be typical, considering she wouldn't have the pressure with them that she seems to have with me.
Anthony, on July 29, she took me out to dinner for my birthday. Things were not right, but they weren't horrible either. She did not want to discuss our situation and I asked her "Are you just pushing me away because you don't want to be the one who ends the relationship, you want me to be forced to do it?" She started crying and said that what I am saying would not make her life better and that she is so confused, she doesn't know what to do. Another thing that started this extreme tension was her receiving social security checks for her daughter, since the kid's dad died. She said she has fears of moving out of her parent's house again and failing. She basically thinks everything will fail. She went on and on about her worries and I just listened. In addition to the nightmares and trouble sleeping due to her ex dying, 2 weeks before that she got back in contact with a long time childhood friend - the girl died of a strange seizure a few days later. When we talked face to face, she said she didn't want the relationship to end and she is trying to deal with all of these horrible thoughts in her head. Since the conversation was going in circles, I let it end. When I left, she gave me a huge hug and a big kiss. She held on to me as if she didn't want me to leave, but she said she was exhausted and had to sleep. I didn't hear from her again until a few days later and that's when she texted me that she couldnt keep doing this to me and she's so sorry. She must have written 5 or 6 messages telling me how sorry she is for causing me so much pain and how good I was for her. I sent her the letter in the mail, but we have not spoken in person in over a week and the only contact was us "breaking up" in texts last tuesday.
I have an unrelated question. If she has Post-Traumatic Syndrome Disorder, would she be able to function with co-workers? I ask this because she went out drinking with them the other night. She has her child every day except the first Saturday of the month and I can understand her wanting to go out and drink, try to forget what's happening. But it also makes me feel strange that she would go out drinking with co-workers while shutting me out. Would her behavior be typical, considering she wouldn't have the pressure with them that she seems to have with me.