Just When You Think You Are Getting Better

[RussH]

I went back on my anti anxiety medications a few months ago, and have been doing pretty well. However it seems that just when you think you are getting better, something happens/

I needed an oil change on my car, and frankly it is the pits trying to change it without a lift. I had talked with a mechanic at a local shop and he gave me a ball park price for the oil change, and I took my car there.

When they called and told me my car was ready I asked how much. The girl on the phone told me that they noticed my headlight was burned out and the assembly is broken ( I knew this already) so they changed the light bulb without talking to me, and she told me to total price which was double what I was expecting.

I should not have been upset about it, but it really put my anxiety level way up to the point I almost started tearing up. I told them I did not ask them to look at the light, nor did I want them to because I am getting ready to order a new headlight assembly, and did not need them to do the work then charge me for it. Again the only changed the lightbulb and not the assembly but it still put my anxiety way up.

I hate it that I so over react to things like this. A little thing like this should not bother me, but it does, and that stinks.

 

[Deleted member 20280]

Several years ago I put my car in for a service and gave the garage a total cost I could afford and that if the M.O.T was going to cost any more to ring me first so I could work out the budget. When I went to collect it I was given a bill for well over double the agreed limit I had set. The mechanics face when I nearly dragged him by the throat over the counter..... save it to say I never went back to that garage again.

 

[joeylittle]

A little thing like this should not bother me, but it does, and that stinks.

Big hug to you, Russ. And it doesn't mater if it "should" or "should not" bother you, it just did, that's all. Not saying that to negate your feelings, just trying to change the frame you are using. But I do know the feeling you are talking about, and how upsetting it can be. Also, it might not have been that little thing that was bothering you, it could have been something different and that little thing just set it off. Either way, just because we are working through higher levels of anxiety and depression, etc, than the general public doesn't mean we won't get upset sometimes, even by things we consider small.

(Sometimes I think people working on their mental health hold themselves to a much higher standard of distress tolerance than people who are "already fine", and it helps to remember that we will always have things bother us, just like anyone.)

 

[Deleted member 1860]

So sorry Russ, it stinks when we feel so good and then get blindsided by something that would be minor to many others. I don't think it was right of them to do work without your approval. That is a shady business practice.

 

[Friday]

Surprises can kiss my ass. I don't even like presents. Much less anything with a bill attached.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I can so relate Russ and I think your reaction is perfectly normal for what you experienced. I hope you can get some good rest and do not be hard on yourself for this bad experience.

 

[Sighs]

Hugs if you accept them @RussH. My vet seems to struggle far more with "the little things" than he does big issues. I think its because big issues you kinda expect and prepare for - little things smack you in the side of the head when you least expect them.

 

[JEKBreatheandBelieve]

Don't beat yourself up over something you think shouldn't bother you. Your reaction is what it is. And changing a lightbulb that caused your bill to be double what it was. I am pretty sure that they are supposed to get your permission first or you don't have to pay. I am not sure I could ever fight that kind of thing, but I know people who have. Just remember all is not lost because of one bad experience. Hugs.

 

[RussH]

Just remember all is not lost because of one bad experience. Hugs.

thanks J
How are you doing?

 

[JEKBreatheandBelieve]

You're welcome, @RussH . I am extremely tired today. Thought I might be sick- my boys have had stomach bugs, but I think I've just been super tired. Starting to get more into the routine of being back to work- except it keeps snowing! I had only 2 teaching days last week.

 

[Neverthesame]

I have had garages do this to me as well @RussH. Can definitely wreck your day.