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Sexual Assault Justifiable Risk?

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Im in the UK where there is little to no point of reporting your rapist to the police as only 5-15 percent of rapes are reported and only around the same percent ever get to court and of those that do only 5.7 end in conviction. Not to mention survivors are treated barbarically. So over a year ago when I was drugged raped and filmed and the assholes drug dealer stepdad got him to delete the video after showing it around town so I couldn't press charged I decided to take action to protect other girls. I outed him on social media under an alias on a popular site. I gave his name, a link to his facebook, the two towns he moves between and where he works and a full account of what he had done to me. Recently the family tried to strong arm me into removing the post as the man has been suspended from work and supposedly tried to commit suicide. Denied being the author of the post and told them to involve the police they wont do it as they know hes guilty and have their own drug business to hide. They accepted this but recently asked I write a letter for them lying and saying the dick didnt rape me. My partner and I are convinced they want this as he must have done it to another girl and the post could be corroberation to any legal accusations against him. So next week my partner and I are going to make a 3rd person report so there id a record against his name in police files that will support any of his current or future victims. We can do this anonymously. I am worried his criminal family will forge an email or letter from me denying the rape as there is no way im going to give them one like they're asking. Would it be a justifiable risk for me to contact the police station in the town where he works to alert them to what the family has been doing or to contacted his boss and say that I am making no statement on the issue so any correspondence from me after that is false and he should report it to the police?
 
That all sounds like a question for both a lawyer( solicitor? ) AND a non-local anti-corruption division of the police.
If you can't trust the local cops, you have got to try going over their heads, if possible?
Not sure how the UK system works.
If I was worried about local police corruption, I'd document it and report said documentation to the state police, or the Justice Department.
 
I was drugged and kidnapped in London and escaped before I was God only knows what. I ran so hard I finally collapsed and a kind woman asked me if I need the police and I said no please help me get a cab that is safe(I am American and was there traveling-no one would have known I was missing). She asked if she should ask that the cab take me to a hospital and I said no I want to go back where I was staying. So she helped me. The reason I was traveling was to escape the trauma of having been strangled and left for dead in the US. The police were involved with that and he went to court and I was demonized by his lawyers. It was horrible.

There was nothing I could have told the police about how to find the guy who kidnapped me. I had no idea where I was or where I had been. But I do feel really guilty that I didn't report it because he would continue to do that and who knows how much suffering I could have stopped.

The drug dealers are known to the police I'm sure. Getting your story on the books won't hurt and it may lead to the take down if the whole Derek tribe of them. And I seriously doubt he attempted suicide. Guys like that are sociopaths, if not full blown psychopaths. Ask for a victim advocate. They will help you be treated with dignity. Don't go alone. I think somewhere down the road, you may be like me and regret that you didn't report it, even in spite of probably not getting a conviction.

I'm so sorry that you went through that and I'm glad you were let go. I'm glad you have the support of your partner. I understand your trepidation because it's true you can't trust a drug dealer. But they are more interested in their own selves and will probably back off to take attention off themselves. Rapists have no remorse. That's why they go to prison for 25 years. Best wishes. KYG
 
If what you have posted about him on social media can be tied to you, a possibility if you contact the police, and you have no evidence to support your accusations about him, then you could be sued for libel.
 
In Scotland its defamation and the statute of limitations is 3 years giving him around 17 months left to seek charges. Hard to do as the police don't have any duristiction over an American website and it was posted anonymously through an account tied to an email address both of which have been closed and were not tied to any of my details and they would need concrete evidence I posted it before they could start an investigation. And its only defamation if its false in scots law so the onus would be on him to prove beyond reasonable doubt it was false which is unlikely as hes guilty as hell and my partners a witness to the distribution and destruction of the tape of my assault. Also the drug dealer family knows hes guilty and cant have the police involved. Im not worried about defamation just trying to protect other girls from going through the same horrific trauma. If doing the right thing isnt necessarily the same as the legal thing I must follow my conscience. Hiding a rapists identity and letting him do it to others isnt something I can reconcile myself to doing.
 
Just to add, he can sue for anything, libel or whatever, but he won't because it is the truth and it would be stupid of him to do so and could lead to other charges against him. My guess is he wants to cover this up and hide it not bring it in the light by suing for libel.
 
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