Knowing If You Are On The Right Path

[Thinkingman85]

Thanks for the kind words Lady Vet. We share a similar approach. The philosophy of stoicism preaches to "live according to nature". It seem that you are doing that. Doing what will naturally make us feel better seems like the right path.

 

[Lady Vet]

It's not always easy to know, especially when everyone else seems to have their personal opinions that they throw around like facts of life for everyone else...lol. But I would say do what feels right and trust in that...because what else do we ultimately have to guide us? I, for one, refuse to be guided by the ideas and ideologies of other people. So good luck to you as you search for what's right for you. :)

And thank you for sharing that journey with us. :)

 

[timid_flower]

And thank you for sharing that journey with us. :)

I second that :)

 

[timid_flower]

Ah Lady Vet, your posts put a big smile on my face. Very encouraging. Also, you somehow remind me of my best friend. She's one of the most supportive people I know. What she tells me sounds very similar to what you just said.

I completely agree, just wished I was able to have that type of confidence. I know it's possible and I'm working on it. In the meantime, I'm thankful there are people like you to remind me :)

Thanks.

 

[faraway]

The people that are with you through the seasons are true friends.

Someone I love very much once said to me: people come into our lives for a reason, season or a lifetime. The trick is to know which. I've found that statement to be overwhelmingly true.

I would resist crying even more

Yesh. I'm still here. I forbid myself to cry and fight it so hard when it tries to come. I don't even mean to fight it, I just do. It's instinctual by now.

So the path (for me) is always about taking steps in response to what is directly in front of me.

I pretty much feel the same way as this. I do tend to set myself longer-term goals as well, but not end-game ones. I try to live little-by-little.

 

[Thinkingman85]

Recently, I've been a lot more tired. Also, I feel more lethargic. I feel like I'm gaining more mental stability, but seeing a realistic end in sight is something I'm concerned about. I always feel like there is nothing wrong with me and I am sabotaging myself. The other part of me thinks that succeeding is useless and has no meaning because in the end it will end up in death and it has no innate value. Witnessing my parents deaths formed this mindset. I can't stand this mental instability. I've had it for six years after I developed a depression. I have isolated for a year and I don't know how I'm going to be able to step back out into the world determined and stable. My ex girlfriend and I are not together because she thought I was not being serious. I am trying my hardest. This is probably the most difficult time of my life. I don't know where to turn anymore because it seems like people are turning a blind eye. It makes me sick. I wish that I had more confidence that my approach (medication, therapy, and learning) is the best. It's hard to know if it seems like everyone else around me is living a normal life. As I'm typing this, I feel like I'm beating myself up. This has to end someday.

 

[Bilby]

How are you feeling in the lead up to Christmas? Do you feel like this time makes you feel worse?

 

[Sailorgal]

It's a good thing that you're gaining mental stability. Makes it easier as you continue in your journey processing thoughts and emotions.

Even years later when I was over the grieving process, there were things and places I avoided as they still were too difficult to deal with.

When you feel hopeless, what do you do? Is it that you revert to your parent's death or something reminds you of their death and then you feel that despair?

There is hope to have hope.... :)

 

[timid_flower]

I wish that I had more confidence that my approach (medication, therapy, and learning) is the best.

what's the alternative?

 

[Thinkingman85]

Bilby, yes I feel worse on holidays (particularly Thanksgiving and Christmas).

Sailorgal, yes I revert back to my parents deaths or the situation I'm currently in. I don't know how to heal my wounds if I keep licking them.

timid_flower, the alternative would be to get revenge on all of those that did me wrong. Instead, I hold the pain in and try to resolve it. The longer I'm holding it in, the more I'm hurting myself.

 

[saffy]

I always feel like those people have an expectation that I once was able to fulfill, and now since I'm focusing on getting better, they do not see me the same way.

Because you have changed yourself. This is a very assuming comment. Do you actually know what they are expecting or are you assuming you know what they want? (don't worry I always do it) If they are there to expect something from your past then they sound like they are stuck in the past or still needy of that part of you.

Have you actually asked them what they expect from you now?

best wishes
Saffy :)

 

[saffy]

me feel guilty for my decisions or because they questioned my choices,

That was for me too. I realised that because of it I did not even trust my own decisions or ability to make the right decision. All my decisions and opinion were apparently wrong so how can I learn to be confident in them now. I hope that makes sense :)

I am learning to trust my own thoughts and feelings and believe I have the right to acknowledge them whether they are sad or happy, good or bad.

Best wishes
Saffy :)