Sexual Assault Law Of Attraction And Child Abuse

[miss_isolated]

People are gonna have their own opinions which they are entitled to voice - as long as it isn't attacking anyone. I think it's great that we're being honest, and maybe people aren't being honest enough..? I dunno...

 

[miss_isolated]

But I don't blame my mother for it. That is absolutely absurd!!! She never willed for this to happen.

Hey I'm sorry, I never meant to hurt you GirlPower - or anyone else in this forum...? I feel sick and anxious right now - and this certainly isn't a light subject. I can tell that your mother means a lot to you - I love my mother very much. It was my own opinion about my own situation. Because I believe it so much about my own mother I applied to all mothers.

I have this idea that the lioness protects her cubs. And we humans are the dominant species. I just think that if I had children (I don't), I'd be the primary one responsible for protecting them from such people... and it's not usually strangers, it's people you know. I think if I'm a good enough judge of character regarding friends/visitors and family and get through my own demons of being abused which is very important - then I can protect my children from weirdos. This is my belief and I don't think it's likely to change.

I feel a lot of survivors blame their mothers for being sexually abused as a child, and it's great that you are in a place where you think it's absurd that your mother could be to blame.

I've never explored my feelings of blaming the mothers for sexual abuse before to anyone.... I seriously thought that most if not all of people felt how I feel about the mothers.

Still, it's good GirlPower gave me honest feedback, she has offered a new perspective that I didn't really think anyone had.

 

[rainbow1]

I was not intending to cause any upset Girl Power.

I will try to explain what I meant to make myself clearer. In my post, I described what I have read about the Laws of Attraction and Karma and stated what I felt was good and not so good.

I explained that I liked the idea that positive thoughts could lead to positive things happening in the future. That I liked the "ingredients" idea of Karma.

I also explained that I did not see how I could fail to address the negative side. This is necessary for a balanced view, in my opinion.

I explained that the Laws of Attraction suggests that you get whatever it is that is in your thoughts, good or bad, and due to a requirement to believe in a subjective reality I could not believe in this theory.

I used the fact that some took CB's comments as offensive/upsetting to illustrate the laws of attraction in use.

These thoughts in my opinion were neither immature or offensive. I hope this explains my post better.

I was interested in the topic and to hear other people's views, however, I will confine my posts to my diary from now on.:wave:

 

[miss_isolated]

Perhaps we are here to stop the cycle of abuse. Perhaps we take on the "sins of the father(mother)" and have to heal them for everyone before us.

Yes, I'd say this is true. We now have a responsibility to break the cycle/step off the wheel. I know that if I don't heal myself enough and I have children, I'll just be putting them through the same crap I went through and they could even experience abuse and end up like me. Which is a no-no. I am moving through my demons, but admittedly not very fast.

I want to be the one in the history of women in my family, that doesn't end up like my mother. I'll regret it sooo much on my death bed (or even when floating around in the afterlife).

 

[miss_isolated]

I wonder what kinds of responses there would be if this thread was on a non-sexual abuse forum?

 

[miss_isolated]

OK, I have tweeted this question on twitter to one of the western worlds, popular metaphysical teachers... Marianne Williamson.

This is what I asked: "the law of attraction & child/adult sex abuse - does it really say people attract abuse to themselves? I am a healing victim"

and she tweeted me this reply: "I myself would never, ever say that"

That's it. I knew it. We all did. I'm now done with this question for life. I'm taking her answer and leaving it at that, I'm content now. There's no way I could/would ever believe we attracted all this anyway. To create the thread on here (and have people getting upset) wasn't all for nothing though, because it led me to my answer.

I do feel slightly guilty for asking her such a heavy question... I have all her books and the first tie I meet her, I go and bother her with such a negative question! But she's helped me so god bless her.

I guess it comes down to people being free to have their own opinions.

Thank you very much to you all.

 

[Nyx]

I really don't understand what all the fuss is about around here, why so many people feel offended. Those statements are not meant to attack, they are just meant to explain a point of view. I see it the same way: if the law of attraction states that you attract everything into your life, then it would mean that you also attract cancer, rape, death and all of that. Doesn't it? I mean, if things are so black and wahite when it comes to the good side, why doesn't it apply to the bad sides too?

I think that people who feel offended should take a step back and try to understand that no one is trying to hurt or attack anyone, it's just questions to help clarify a point of view.

 

[cherryblossom]

If this is not offensive and frankly immature I don't know what is. Cherryblossom you wanted to get an explanation of what the law of attraction is and how it explains abuse and to get your answer you have stooped to a low level and used an event that has happened in my boyfriends life that still hurts him today and so hurts me.

Girlpower, I have already apologised to you for my comment regarding your boyfriends sister.

Girl Power if I upset you, then I apologise, never my intention.

I can not do any more than apologise to you. My apology was heart felt, because as I have stated, my intention was never to upset anyone. I actually find it quite upsetting that you bring this point up again, when I have already apologised to you.

In the same paragraph that you berate me, you also go on to say

The abuse that my Dad inflicted on me causes me so much pain and heartache everyday that I am likely to never get over. But I don't blame my mother for it. That is absolutely absurd!!! She never willed for this to happen. If she did then why were my brother and sister not abused in the same way.

I just want to make it quite clear that it wasn't me who made any link between abuse and your mother.

Tarot is absolutely right, the written word can often be wrongly interpreted, which is why we need to ask further questions, and ask for clarification if we don't understand each other.

Girl Power, in my opinion you are verging on attacking other members.

Rainbow I don't agree with your post: These are all immature responses.

It is fine to disagree with other members but to call other members responses immature lacks respect for other members.

This thread has caused me a lot of anxiety, which is something I struggle with on a day to day basis due to a lot of memories coming back to me over the last few months about my abuse and has also upset me, which is not what I came to this form for :cry:

I think it is probably fair to say that the majority of members here suffer from some degree of anxiety. If a specific thread causes any member stress and anxiety, then it is that members responsibility to stay away from that thread. Everyone can choose to read what they want to read, and respond to whatever they choose.

I saw some comments that sounded like she was in pain, and was using some low-blows regarding other board members to get her message across.

I can re-assure you that I'm not in pain, nor did I think I was using using 'low-blows' to air my opinion. When the whole question of the law of attraction was raised, I questioned the flip side to the positive interpretation. I thought about all the people I know who have suffered hard ships (abuse, bankruptcy, illness and death), but since girl power brought up the discussion of someone close to her suffering from cancer, I used her situation as an example. If I had known that it would cause such upset I would have used an example from my own life instead, and I have apologised. Please don't guess, or make assumptions about how I feel. If you are unsure, or want clarifications, please ask.

 

[Tarot]

I wrote something, but decided to post in my journal instead. Nevermind.

 

[cherryblossom]

All conversations and threads are left open for anyone to discuss or add to at any time.

<edited to add that this comment was made in response to a message which has since been deleted by the poster>

 

[twinkle30]

I also wonder about animal abuse and the law of attraction. How does an innocent kitten attract torture and abuse? That's victim blaming.

 

[The Albatross]

I think I addressed this elsewhere. The law of attraction is hokum. Obviously I found the car accident one first. [edited to add, ah... that settles it... this is an old thread]