Left Abusive Relationship

[Cherry_Bluebell]

I've left an abusive on/off relationship a few months ago. Cut the story short it's all ended up in him being arrested for harassment and assault against me. What makes me angry about everything is I was diagnosed with ptsd approx a year ago and over a year ago I finally got into employment. I've worked so hard to improve my life and turn around my hard childhood and early adulthood, yet this selfish man has seeked to create even more stress into my life and bring me hell. He called me mental for having ptsd, and kept pressuring me to sleep with him when I was exhausted from work (he never raped me I just refused to sleep with him if he pressured me) and he would constantly accuse me of sleeping around and cheating on him, when I was at work working my butt off to pay my bills. So many horrible things were said about me during our relationship and i was always defending myself against false accusations of things. Im so angry about everything and I have an unsympathetic detective working on the case who sympathises with him. Sorry for the rant

 

[Deleted member 19804]

That is a very big accomplishment, Cherry_Bluebell. You can be very proud of leaving such a toxic relationship; it takes a lot of courage and strength to do that.

I am sorry the detective working on your case seems sympathetic towards your ex. As a professional, he should let the evidence do the talking and leave his personal convictions out of this. It sucks that he's choosing sides like this. It's very unprofessional.
I don't know how all this works because I have never been through this process, but couls it be an option for you to talk to a lawyer about this? Even if just to have a professional witness, and for him/her to keep an eye on things.

Is there anyone you can talk to about what's happening? Feel free to send me a message if you want, I'd gladly help you however I can.

If you accept hugs, here's a bunch of them. :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

 

[seedling]

Getting him out of your life is one more way you are healing your early abuse. He didn't want to help you get out of it, he wanted you to stay in the victim mode so he could take advantage of it. Congratulations on letting go of him and the toxic stuff he was keeping in your life. Now you can move on even more.
You deserve so much more than someone who calls you names and accuses you. You did so great not to be pulled back in, you beat the challenge and got rid of him! No apologies due there! Hurray for you!

 

[InvisibleSun]

This is a huge step in your recovery and you should be proud of yourself! Abusive relationships can destroy your soul if you allow them and you can never go wrong by walking away from toxic individuals. Not to mention you will be able to focus more on yourself and your own recovery without the harassment of someone else..

Best of luck and stay strong!

 

[Cherry_Bluebell]

Thank you everybody. Just an update all charges against him were dropped by the police

 

[Truthful_Whispers]

Be glad you are rid of the sh*tstick. Can you request another detective take the case, because the one investigating now has personal bias? He probably abuses is woman too.

 

[Cherry_Bluebell]

Be glad you are rid of the sh*tstick. Can you request another detective take the case, because...

Yes I believe he had a personal bias. The case has been closed now they dropped all charges