Looking For Other Police Officers That Can Relate.....

[4real4now]

OMG brat 17, the more I read your story the more nauseous I got. This is a terrible and tragic event that happened to you and I can't even begin to articulate the emotions and disgust I have right now. I pride myself on treating everyone like they were a friend or family member of mine and how I would like them to be treated by LE. I always hear how people are more afraid of the police then the "bad guys". I've been told that I'm not like some of the officers they have encountered. I always like to ask them what those encounters were like and am sad to hear what they have experienced.

Some of the difficulty that I have is understanding how people can do the evil things that they do and function. It makes me question my faith and why terrible things happen to good law abiding citizens. I am sad to hear that you have attempted suicide but am glad that you did not allow this poor excuse for a human being take your life.

I apologize but I need to take a few moments to gather and collect my thoughts because I am shaken to my very core at your story and am still nauseous!

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[amethist]

Hi all who have posted in this thread.

I have moved it from the "Find A Friend" section, as it is now more of a discussion thread than the basic location information required in the original section.

Thanks.

Amethist.

 

[mamachick]

4reql4no2-thank you for not criticizing my post. I cannot express how much your words mean to me. Am currently in controlling situatation as result of all this. and cant talk now. I now know my place I guess. Not in good place but will post more later.Thank you

 

[Tinyflame]

Dear Brat, I am so sorry, but glad you got it out, you said "You later discovered he was an abuser of women"- no kidding- as you said you got his full wrath. I'm surprised he didn't kill you, or leave you quadriplegic.

But that says to me 2 things: no abuser wants to be stopped- whatever side of the law they're on.

And secondly, you didn't need any implicit lessons in compassion, but I am sure you intimately understand what those trying to get out are up against, and I sure bet you your daughter will make one hell of a lawyer. And most of all, you were meant to make it. I know there are several times I have wished I didn't- today included- seems would have been more 'merciful'. But for your daughter's sake and 'ours', I'm sure glad you did. I hope one day you will be able to live in peace, and with joy and a restful heart. I believe that day will come Brat.
(((((((Hugs))))), xox

 

[mamachick]

Thank you Junebug, You always have compassion and reason. I use to be friends with a couple of good cops. I know that all LE are not like this. Most are not. Yet I have nightmares regularly. Have just gone back on xanax after no sleep for nights. I live in a city that is actually very safe. The worst cops here usually deal with is accidnets, drunks, and dv (which I know can be very dangerous)

I have been in a restaurant and seen them pull customers out of a booth and take them outside for a breathalizer because they were laughing. They harrassed an attorney at a KFC because he had a gun and a permit to carry.. I am afraid to be on the road in this city so I stay home. If I see a police car, I have anxiety. Yet when I get out of the area, I do not have these symptoms when seeing other LE. Just here in my area. I have left places because they were there. After my incident, the chief (because he was cuaght at the casino while on the clock) resigned. The new chief seemed to hold officers accountable and at least provide some supervision. He is now retiring. Yesterday was his last day. God only knows what will happen now. I am sorry for sounding so weak, there is nothing that I can compare to being assaulted by someone with a badge and gun.

Depending on where you live, I am sure that LE come across some very dangerous situations that leave a lasting impression and severe effects. I applaud those of you that do this day after day without loosing your temper.

 

[4real4now]

Yikes! It's very sad and unfortunate that the horrible and traumatic incident you had with that officer still has that lasting affect on you. I'm a Canadian police officer and am disturbed by what you encountered by LE. I would expect that maybe in a 3rd world country but not in your country. But in Canada we had a very sick, sick, sick, and evil person who served in the Canadian Forces and was a serial killer. So these people are out there and do get by the screening system.

I guess that's what made me sick to my stomach that these things do happen, that these people are out there and that society doesn't want to believe it.

 

[Tinyflame]

4real4now, I had 2 cops that helped me a lot, and went beyond what they were 'supposed to', and lots of cop friends when I lived in a different city.
I don't think it's the profession, but the individual.
And the more dangerous they are, the more power they can have, or ability to hide behind legitimate, caring people in their profession, the more damage they can do.

 

[4real4now]

Well at least you now know that u have a Constable that cares about ya north of the border. Eh! Lol that's a Canadian joke!

 

[4real4now]

FYI when civilians complain to me about other officers and some of the terrible encounters that they have had I tell them that "they were probably an a-hole before they got on the job and now they an a-hole wearing a uniform". I believe that respect is something that is earned and cannot be demanded! The uniform is just that! It's a uniform! It's the person who wears it that must earn it. I don't automatically respect any uniform but how the person wearing it treats me will determine if I will treat them with respect!

 

[mamachick]

He was an a hole. In Dec. 2007, he broke a 15 yr olds jaw and the kid had multiple surgeries. The father took the case to court but lost. The lawyer said there are no wins against police in this state. In 2008, he assaulted me, 110 lb woman already on disablility from an accident. He called it obstruction since I refused to give permission. In Dec, 2009, he slammed the face of a handcuffed man into the police car, agains requiring surgery. Didnt hear anything in 2010. In Dec 2011, he had a fight with his girlfriend and she tried to leave and he was on her tail. She pulled her car door shut and it hit him. He had her arrested for that and then possted her mugshot on facebook and said "men get abused too ", and sent it to his ex wife and many friends.

I was introduced to his ex wife in 2011. They have a beautiful 4 yr old son together. She said he has another
child 1 week older. She said he is abusive. She is the one that told me about the facebook incident. A couple of weeks later, the girlfriends attorney called me for information in representing this woman who was arrested. I gave him everything I had. (I reported this to the dept of justice and the fbi actually investigated it for criminal charges, since there was no video, they could not prosecute.) All charges against the girlfriend were dropped and the cop was put on desk duty for a week. Now back on regular duty.

I got a small settlement for the accident I had from a fall where I was unconscious, disc herniation broken rib collapsed lung and traumatic brain injury. I had to spend $10, 000 to repair my face from what this officer did. I had screws put in my forehead because my left eye dropped about an inch below the right one after this. They basically had to remove all the skin from my forehead and re-adjust. I guess 2 concussions in 2 years was too much. I thought after my face was fixed I could go out again, but I cant. Im pretty much a recluse and really just want to die. Understand, I already had this head injury that caused depression, and it was hard for me to fight it. Because of the injury, I had to be careful about responding too quick, which is what made the cop mad. I take my time so that I am not offensive. Im not quick thinking like I use to be. He also said that I was someone else that he arrested before, when I said I had never been arrested he asked if I was calling him a liar. I have my house for sale but cant sell in this economy and would rather not live than be here any longer.

 

[4real4now]

WOW that is unreal what you have had to endure! Please take comfort in that I admire your story and that you are a fighter! Your story is a sad one but you have made it through all of this and must have one hell of fighter in you or a good support system. I myself would have cashed in my chips but you are here and haven't folded. I know that somedays must be harder then others but that this forum has had given people like you, like myself, an outlet to vent and communicate with people who have lived and endured terrible things and are fighters, and are survivors!

I have been where you have been and can empathize with you and your journey. You don't need to carry the weight of the world on your shoulders. Let this forum, this community, this family help you with the burden you live with and allow us to take pride in all of your accomplishments.

There's a proverb that's says "How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time".

 

[4real4now]

Nice! I got a reprimand for my grammar/spelling email? Just a little annoyed that I received this "warning". I do know how the brain processes grammar, spelling and structure because I have been diagnosed with PTSD or Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. How about if and when I do get a good nights rest I will make sure that my conversations are correct.

Alright that is my venting and now I will go on with the rest of my day! Laugh out loud.

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