Loving Someone With Ptsd Is Emotional Abuse

[Akadgafa]

There. I said it. You, me, we all subject ourselves to relentless emotional torment when loving someone with PTSD. We have more power than we realize. Let's STOP making ourselves martyrs and claim the type of treatment we rightfully deserve. And to those with PTSD who refuse help, then for the love of all that's sacred, have the self awareness and compassion to not get into a relationship and take another innocent soul down with you until you can get your shit together enough to treat another person like they're an actual human being. End rant. PEACE!

 

[Ulime]

This is a forum for survivors of trauma. Some have an awareness of the treatment they need others are just finding out what that means, and maybe others are not even aware of what the word PTSD means. If you love someone with PTSD love them for who they are. After all, that is what love is, not that you accept abuse from them but that you state your feelings that you are hurt and won't take the abuse, this is basic boundaries. They also should know that you need them to seek treatment whether that is EMDR, DBT, or any of the other choices out there. If you have PTSD and realize their need to get help, just be that beacon of hope for them but for don't take abuse from them. Loving someone with PTSD isn't easy. And we all need to be loved.

 

[Zinet]

Don't get into a romantic relationship with someone who has PTSD unless you are willing to really love the person and go through the hell with them and come out the other side.

 

[Ugezab]

If you hadn't stereotyped everyone with PTSD, I think you might have had some sufferers (like me) backing you up. Many supporters on here are being abused by their sufferer. That doesn't mean that everyone with PTSD is abusive.

 

[Hahufap]

Many supporters on here are being abused by their sufferer. That doesn't mean that everyone with PTSD is abusive.

Yep. Exactly.

 

[Utuba]

Loving someone with PTSD is emotional abuse?

Nope.

I'm sorry if your sufferer is abusive, but that hardly means all -or even most- people with PTSD are abusive.

You, me, we all subject ourselves to relentless emotional torment when loving someone with PTSD.

I've loved many people with PTSD. Very few ever reached even occasional emotional torment, much less relentless emotional torment. The few that did reach it? 9:10 it wasn't the PTSD. It was the end of the relationship. Heartbreak hurts. But that's just the nature of things ending badly. It would happen with anyone I was dating where things ended in grief, instead of as friends. Regardless of any disorder they may have.

 

[Uvo]

LMAO you know what actually is emotional torment? living with ptsd. I was an innocent soul until I was sexually abused, groomed, raped.

You know what you have A choice, you can leave at anytime and if some ass hole is abusing you, you should. It's a reall kick in the teeth to be called an abuser because I know what that means. I live with the consequences every day.

Ptsd Is just another excuse to be a dick for some people me and my partner have a very good loving relationship filled with mutual respect. I've never once even raised my voice to my partner. If your partner doesn't treat you right find someone that'll love you with respect you deserve. Don't come on to a ptsd support forum and blame everyone with ptsd. I've had enough of that for a lifetime. Grow up and tell that dick hole you will not be treated with disrespect.

 

[Owef]

I think what the OP is saying is that being in a relationship with PTSD inherently means to have to take a back seat and NOT have an equal relationship in many cases. They called it abuse, because it can feel like that when needs are not being met, but the PTSD often prevents supporters from enforcing or sometimes even knowing what the right consequences for that are. And yes, sometimes it is abusive. I don't think sufferers like to see it that way, given that PTSD is also an inherently (and understandably) self-involved disorder.

 

[Oroz]

You just can't make sweeping declarations like that. This isn't what my relationship looks like in fact if there's a self involved person in my relationship it's my partner who has no mental health issues. he is a male, So sweeping declaration: males are self centred. See it doesn't work like that. You have issues with your relationship that's fine have a vent about it but don't tell me everyone with ptsd is abusing they're partner.

 

[Owef]

I said sometimes it is abusive and that it needs to be acknowledged that the lines are blurry between what is abusive and what isn't in a PTSD relationship due to the nature of the disease. No sweeping statements there.

 

[Ewinu]

It sounds like the OP is having a tough time in their relationship, is to the point of realizing boundaries need to be firmly set and enforced, and needed a gut spilling rant (this was a pretty short rant too). Instead of automatically exercising our right to be immediately insulted by everything we don't agree with, and jumping on the lets-tar-and-feather-them bandwagon, lets recognize this supporter is themselves in need of some support right now, offer constructive advice, and show just a bit of that compassion that we come to this site for (both sufferers and supporters).

OP: sorry your sufferer is behaving like an ass. I wish you both compassion and healing.

- a sufferer

 

[Enu]

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