@Jensen I agree with others that have said that it depends on the person and the trauma. And I would add the time in their life. Just a guess but I think there are a few main things that will affect it.
Hypervigilance/flight and fight: means that people who go into fawn and freeze a lot will more likely switch off their other defence modes in certain situations.
Assertiveness: some of those who have grown up with dysfunction or abuse (whether they end up with PTSD or not) will have underdeveloped skills when it comes to assertiveness. That can especially be the case with certain people. Like family for example.
Triggers; if something taps into trauma directly then the person can go into an overly accommodating mode for some people. Others will fight.
Reenactment: sometimes past trauma has hooks and some part of our minds want to work it out or finds it familiar and is therefore drawn to it so negative situations snap us in.
When it comes to boundaries then one of the best things I ever read (that made sense for me) was that those with trauma usually have their boundaries messed up. That healthy people flexibly and effortlessly respond to specific situations in a way that best suits each of them. People with trauma often have overly rigid boundaries in some areas and non existent ones in others. Or they get stuck in one or the other of these. Often that changes over time and they can go into a different inflexible or inappropriate reaction.
Who is your girlfriend allowing to manipulate her?
Hypervigilance/flight and fight: means that people who go into fawn and freeze a lot will more likely switch off their other defence modes in certain situations.
Assertiveness: some of those who have grown up with dysfunction or abuse (whether they end up with PTSD or not) will have underdeveloped skills when it comes to assertiveness. That can especially be the case with certain people. Like family for example.
Triggers; if something taps into trauma directly then the person can go into an overly accommodating mode for some people. Others will fight.
Reenactment: sometimes past trauma has hooks and some part of our minds want to work it out or finds it familiar and is therefore drawn to it so negative situations snap us in.
When it comes to boundaries then one of the best things I ever read (that made sense for me) was that those with trauma usually have their boundaries messed up. That healthy people flexibly and effortlessly respond to specific situations in a way that best suits each of them. People with trauma often have overly rigid boundaries in some areas and non existent ones in others. Or they get stuck in one or the other of these. Often that changes over time and they can go into a different inflexible or inappropriate reaction.
Who is your girlfriend allowing to manipulate her?
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