Marriage Ending, Need To Get Healthy, Looking For Support

[crazytrain]

Sorry I have missed all of this, Ericaboo! I have been dealing so much with my own separation that I have not had much energy to devote to others' situations, at least not in too much depth. I am sorry for your loss, but also happy for you to find a place of peace and tranquility! As our losses mount up it seems harder and harder (okay, for me at least!) to pick back up and give it another go! IMHO, take some time for yourself to regroup and re-evaluate where you are and where you want to go, so you can do so in a more whole way! I wish you nothing but the best
CT

 

[ericaboo]

Well, I cancelled my plans to finish moving out tomorrow after 2 nasty phone calls this morning and another that I chose not to answer this afternoon... (From my ex)

He flat out said he can't be concerned with triggering me, and I said I'm done taking his emotional abuse.

I'm helping him with his rent until September, so he can just wait until he can act right if he wants to be rid of the stench of my stuff being there...

I don't know what else I can do. Eh- it's just stuff, right?

 

[crazytrain]

Yes, it's just stuff. I have a few clothes and some things I brought with me 4 1/2 months ago and that's about it. I am officially in the "less is more" lifestyle now! I do miss having work to do, but am hoping things will pick up eventually. The job market is not very good here; I am glad you at least have steady work! Keeps you busy and you get paid, so not much to not like there, eh?!

I am sorry you are having the nasty phone calls and such. Sounds like he is a bit like most men I know, including myself at times. Can't just let things end nicely, gotta really make it so it is a big mess, that way you have some sort of control over it!

Keep on keepin' on, Ericaboo! Your sanity and safety are key, don't forget that, okay?! You are worth fighting for and you are worth taking care of, don't let him tell you any differently!

CT

 

[Eleanor]

If you are still paying rent it is still legally your apt. You can go over whenever you like to get your stuff - like maybe when he is not there?

Don't let him push your buttons. HURRAH YOU ARE NEARLY TOTALLY OUT!

Good choice to move, huh?

 

[piratelady]

I am sorry to hear your ex is acting so horribly. I am with Eleanor - if you want your stuff, just go over there when he his not there. If that is not possible, it's true, it is just stuff and stuff can be replaced. I hope your ex can learn where the line is and stop bothering you.