Marriage= Exhaustion

[Gs172003]

OH HELL NO!

I have found similar things on my SO's phone in the past, but much less extreme. I imme...

You know what she's right. Make HIM leave. you didn't do anything wrong..

 

[mamachick]

He tried to blame you last time???Not buy into that.
My husband is currently blaming me for him hitting me and knocking me down steps.
NO good reason.

 

[lil_fighter]

He is breaching the contract of marriage, he should not be sexting end of. He is in the wrong, not you. You have already tolerated his infidelity (which this essentially is) and he is doing it again. You should not have to leave, he should leave. As for your daughter, it is not fair on her for you to be in a miserable relationship with her father. Her mother and father apart are much better than together. You should set her a good example of what is right, so that when she is older she does not tolerate any abusiveness within a relationship because she can use your actions as a benchmark as to what is right and what is wrong.

It is scary of course, ending the relationship but this can't continue and it is so disrespectful of him to be doing this. You would be doing 100% the right thing by ending this and telling him to jog on. He is not a good example for your daughter while he is living under your roof. Please, if you don't do it for yourself do it for your daughter. You have all of our support, we believe in you! :hug: You deserve so much better than this.

 

[Punky143]

I question if I do though. After all, I chose to marry him a part keeps telling me and that I chose this path. He mimikes how my father once was but minus any physical crap. I know I know, emotional can be just as bad but to me, it its familiar. Any time I'm triggered, especially when arguing, the floor sinks, I become enraged, and can even black out and run. I've told him how it makes me feel but it always ultimately becomes me fault. See he refuses to acknowledge he has struggles himself with mental health and "I don't need to pay someone to listen to my problems. Your my wife, you should be the one I can talk to, who can make me happy." Yes, I've told him I nor anyone else can make him happy. He needs to be the one who wants to be happy. He did NOT like me saying that at all. It blew up in my face. Even tonight as he fixed my car he was breathing so laboured and does everyday. I nicely asked if he was ok really just out of concern and he got angry. He's overweight and suffers from Asthma. He calls himself fat and knows he needs to take better care of himself but, doesn't do anything about it. I've approached the topic of seeing his Dr making sure it focused on caring for him but it was never received the way it was intended.
If I decided to go I've been told in different contex, he has no one. Both his parents are deceased, and much of the extended family. He has a brother whom he speaks with but not the sister. Guilt. Lots and losts of guilt on my end. Ultimately, I sacrafice and the child part takes over and negative everything screams throughout my head. That's it in a nutshell.

 

[aut555]

You feel responsible for him but stop for a moment, is it your life career to babysit this man? You are codependent on his needing you because? Only you know the answers to that puzzle. Why you feel bad for him, why you aren't the more important person here. Or is it easier to stay in this relationship? A lot of people are guilty of that reason. The what if l did this, no, it's easier to stay in this situation. Change is scary, being single is scary. Good luck, stay postive, stay centered on you and your emotional health.