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So paraphrasing her words
- we were the same
- We has the same values
- we had the same sense of gunour
- she had waited her whole life for someone who understood her, laughed with her and wanted the same things in life
- she had found that in me
- she knew I was the one for her
Her best friend has obviously come piling in. Understandable when my ex had been through emotional abuse in the past from in my ex’s words a partner who wouldn’t let her call her friends or family. My ex is estranged from all of her family apart from her mother with whom she has little contact. So her friend is her family. Her friend may want the best for my ex. I have no doubt about that. But she knows very little I’m sure about the messages my ex and I shared about hopes for the future or about my ex’s insecurities and why I tried to reassure my ex that I was there for her and her daughter.
It really is sad that relationships can fall apart so so quickly. Had there being raised voices, constant arguments etc it would be much easier to comprehend.
She didn’t once say she wanted different things. We did share a similar sense of humour, outlook on life, values when it came to family etc. she had done an amazing job before Christmas organising a toy drive for a charity. She knew the charity work I did was important. She wasn’t selfish when it came to material things.
It is just really really difficult to comprehend how genuinely wanting to be a positive part of their lives as they were very much so to mine could be twisted in this way. It has really left me utterly shattered. My boss contacted me last night thanking me for all my efforts in recent weeks to deal with so much while he was also dealing with a tragic circumstance involving a close family friend. I could really only say that at the moment I don’t know which way is up.
- we were the same
- We has the same values
- we had the same sense of gunour
- she had waited her whole life for someone who understood her, laughed with her and wanted the same things in life
- she had found that in me
- she knew I was the one for her
Her best friend has obviously come piling in. Understandable when my ex had been through emotional abuse in the past from in my ex’s words a partner who wouldn’t let her call her friends or family. My ex is estranged from all of her family apart from her mother with whom she has little contact. So her friend is her family. Her friend may want the best for my ex. I have no doubt about that. But she knows very little I’m sure about the messages my ex and I shared about hopes for the future or about my ex’s insecurities and why I tried to reassure my ex that I was there for her and her daughter.
It really is sad that relationships can fall apart so so quickly. Had there being raised voices, constant arguments etc it would be much easier to comprehend.
She didn’t once say she wanted different things. We did share a similar sense of humour, outlook on life, values when it came to family etc. she had done an amazing job before Christmas organising a toy drive for a charity. She knew the charity work I did was important. She wasn’t selfish when it came to material things.
It is just really really difficult to comprehend how genuinely wanting to be a positive part of their lives as they were very much so to mine could be twisted in this way. It has really left me utterly shattered. My boss contacted me last night thanking me for all my efforts in recent weeks to deal with so much while he was also dealing with a tragic circumstance involving a close family friend. I could really only say that at the moment I don’t know which way is up.