My Best Friend Is A Terrible Person.

[ashdawn8287]

Wow. So I told my best friend about needing help possibly to fund raise going to Africa tiki help people. She really hurt my self esteem. I guess I need some words of wisdom for people like this.

Her ignorant response, "Sorry I only help the US."

I said, "Wow, I am glad you told me this. I wouldn't want to posion what I am doing with ignorance. How could you only want to help a country that is spoiled, some countries don't even have running water."

She said, "You will never make it to Africa."

I said, "Ignorance and jealousy sucks, so I hope you get better and recover soon. We are two different to be friends. I don't want you in my life anymore with all that negative energy that surrounds you."

She preceeded to call me ugly

 

[Rumors]

I am not quite sure why you feel like she is a terrible person? Granted, her response of only helping people in the US may have seemed a bit strong, however she IS entitled to help whom ever she wishes. If she chooses to focus on people in the US, that is no different than you focusing on people in Africa. It may not have been my exact response and I may have softened the explanation, however the fact remains she doesn't have to fund you in your cause in order to be your friend. Had you accepted that she had a difference in opinion rather than making a comment about her "poisoning" and "ignorance" it would have ended there but your words escalated things. Fact is, in life not everyone will hold your same truths or opinions and each should be respected. According to your account she started the conversation by saying, "Sorry". I know this may sound harsh but I think you owe her an apology for replying in a manner that escalated the conversation.

Our culture today is one where we have no tolerance for someone else's opinion or belief. Don't be that person. Raise your money elsewhere and don't pass judgement because she chooses to help in a different manner. She is NOT a terrible person for choosing to support what she believes in. Choose your words when engaging in conversation where you are arguing our point. Inflammatory comments about being poision and ignorant do nothing except make the other person dig their heels in. You don't want to be that person!

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

Her ignorant response, "Sorry I only help the US."

My first thought when I read this was wondering if maybe she was meaning that phrase "Charity begins at home" I.e she feels there are people in the US she wants to help first.

I see differences of view point here but nothing that would make her a terrible person. And I am wondering why you called her to being with? Her giving you money to fund something that is purely your view point and cause should not affect your friendship. To be honest it is coming across as a bit self righteous on your part becasue of your response to her simply saying "Sorry I only help US."

 

[nomedic1]

Better to find like minded people Ash, so the support will be there.

 

[ashdawn8287]

I know that. Let me clarify a bit more about this person. She isn't a terrible person for having her own opinion, but it is years of verbal abuse that I have put up with trying to help her and her putting me down at everything I try to do. She is spoiled and only cares about her self. She is rude to everyone she encounters. I don't think she has ever spoken a nice word out of concern for others. I forget that I should be more detailed in these responses and I was on my phone for a quick outlet at the time. So, I didn't feel like typing all that.

She is cruel. She whines when she doesn't get her way. She talks out of spite and hate. She's been fired for her actions and words as well as been in jail a few times. Everyone I know has wondered why I have stayed friends with her for so long, and it is only because I have been friends with her for so long, if that makes sense. I cut my ties with her a year ago and then her mom died. So of course I tried helping her.

Her being a terrible person has nothing to do with having her own opinions. It is how she is as a person.
I am not that person. That's cool she cares about the US, but to me a friend supports your dreams.

 

[ashdawn8287]

She doesn't give charity at all. Not even to the US. So her statement made no sense and was more of like an excuse or a making fun of me thing. So that's why it kind of ticked me off too.

She doesn't know what is going on in the world and probably couldn't connect the dots.

 

[ashdawn8287]

I was NOT asking her for money. I was asking her to help me raise money.

 

[ashdawn8287]

I just sent out a mass text. I didn't specifically just go to her. It just sent it to everyone in my phone. I call her my best friend because we grew up together. So it is more of like she was my best friend but calling her that is just easier because of our long history together.

 

[ashdawn8287]

To give an example she said, "You are living in fantasy land trying to go to Africa. Next thing you know you will be at the North Pole building toys for santa. hahahaha genius." She is a bully. That statement occurred after she called me ugly by the way.


Also, this is not an issue anymore. I am better off without her and I know that and I don't need anyone else telling me to get rid of her and trying to get me to understand how terrible she is, because the older we have gotten the more noticeable it is, not just to me but to anyone she encounters.

Spoiling is the worst thing you can do to a child.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

I had a feeling this was the proverbial straw that broke the camels back!

 

[ashdawn8287]

Solace lol. It's okay. I feel bad for saying she's a terrible person. I know the guilt stems from traumas though. I kind of feel ashamed I allowed myself to get upset by something so minimal but again I am glad it happened, just not how it happened.

 

[naturebaby_85]

I'm with nomedic1..

Quite surprised at some of the responses here to be honest. Perhaps we're all better off taking off our "judge" gowns?

Whilst I think it's important to be honest, I also think its important to be empathetic and supportive, we all have different battles and we don't react perfectly, but we live and learn.

Not the most supportive or encouraging of threads.

All the best with your fundraising initiatives ashdawn