My daughter has PTSD too

[Gs172003]

My 25 year old daughter just informed me today that she was diagnosed when she was 13. She never told me until today. She just started going to therapy again. Why wasn't I told as her parent by the person who diagnosed her?
I do have to say I am not surprised at all by the diagnosis just that she got it that young. We got it from the same person.

 

[Kubash16]

The only guess I have is some therapists don’t share diagnoses with patients or anyone else really because they want to keep the focus on solving the symptoms rather than wearing a label. But since she knew about it, you would think they would say something. But there is strict confidentiality when it comes to sessions with minors. A therapist only absolutely has to share something if the minor is in danger of hurting themselves or others or are currently being abused.

 

[Gs172003]

The only guess I have is some therapists don’t share diagnoses with patients or anyone else really because they want to keep the focus on solving the symptoms rather than wearing a label. But since she knew about it, you would think they would say something. But there is strict confidentiality when it comes to sessions with minors. A therapist only absolutely has to share something if the minor is in danger of hurting themselves or others or are currently being abused.

I don't know if she was diagnosed by her therapist ( my guess) or in the hospital. Im not going to ask at this point. It's been 12 years I don't guess it matters at this point. But...is this common???

 

[Sideways]

When someone is admitted to hospital, there’s ordinarily a diagnosis included in the paperwork somewhere. I don’t have kids, but it’s definitely my experience that the diagnosis itself oftentimes doesn’t form part of the conversation with primary caregivers, not only in mental health, but in many areas of medicine...don’t know if that’s helpful.

 

[Gs172003]

When someone is admitted to hospital, there’s ordinarily a diagnosis included in the paperwork somewhere. I don’t have kids, but it’s definitely my experience that the diagnosis itself oftentimes doesn’t form part of the conversation with primary caregivers, not only in mental health, but in many areas of medicine...don’t know if that’s helpful.

I was never told anything because of "privacy laws". But thank you.

 

[Friday]

Why wasn't I told as her parent by the person who diagnosed her?

I think you’ve just answered your own question, here...

I was never told anything because of "privacy laws".

If it’s against the law for them to tell you, they’re not going to tell you.

 

[Gs172003]

I think you’ve just answered your own question, here...


If it’s against the law for them to tell you, they’re not going to tell you.

I guess what makes me angry is she was my minor child. I feel like I should have been told. If she had diabetes they would have told me...why would they keep her mental health from me?
I knew she was suffering but she was and is very secretive. Her and her brother, like me, refuse to talk about any of this. But to have a professional say she had a diagnosis would have made things "click".

 

[MyWillow]

At 8 years and 12 years medical specialists advised my parents that I should see a child psychologist. They dismissed it but had they sent me I would have been mortified to have details of my diagnosis given to my parents. To this day they exhibit, according to my psydoc, strong traits of personality disorders.

 

[The Albatross]

Anger may be misdirected... though understandable. Your daughter though at 13 through to now could have elected to tell you at any time. For whatever reason and/or her own therapeutic process she did not. Perhaps anger might be covering for other feelings/thoughts that are more uncomfortable for you? I know it's that way at times for me.

 

[Gs172003]

Anger may be misdirected... though understandable. Your daughter though at 13 through to now could have elected to tell you at any time. For whatever reason and/or her own therapeutic process she did not. Perhaps anger might be covering for other feelings/thoughts that are more uncomfortable for you? I know it's that way at times for me.

Right now I don't know.

 

[The Albatross]

Rationally, like Friday said in her post... you do know about privacy constraints. Like I said, totally understandable to be angry about institutional constraints on things that affect you as a parent. But on investigation personally for me, there is usually an underlying issue... feelings I want to evade when I use my "go to" anger.

(((Hugs for you Zoo)))

 

[Gs172003]

Rationally, like Friday said in her post... you do know about privacy constraints. Like I said, totally understandable to be angry about institutional constraints on things that affect you as a parent. But on investigation personally for me, there is usually an underlying issue... feelings I want to evade when I use my "go to" anger.

(((Hugs for you Zoo)))

Thank you