My Egg Donor Hates My Art

[Sideways]

There seems to be a few hurtful relationship issues from the recent and long term past coming up for you at the moment - with your grandmother, sperm donor and egg donor. Is there something recently that may have triggered these issues to come to the surface? Maybe working on this in therapy at the moment??

 

[joeylittle]

@kasumigenx - I've merged your threads because they are all about your immediate family, and there's no need to start single threads for each one when posting so immediately following one another.

Please keep this discussion of your troubled relationships to your immediate family contained within this thread.

Are you in therapy? Others have asked - I'm wondering what you are doing to support yourself.

 

[Sideways]

With regard to your egg donor, imho, you may find it helpful to reframe some of that.

In the 1st example, if your designs were art (rather than technical drawings for something to be manufactured), then your egg donor was plain wrong. Patents are irrelevant. You have copyright over your artistic work. Tell your egg donor she doesn't know what she's on about.

2nd example: if your egg donor is 'coercing' you to throw your art out, like threatening you with a knife if you don't, call the cops. Otherwise, remind yourself "I threw my art away because she said something hurtful". You are in control aand again, simply tell your egg donor that she doesn't know what she's talking about.

We often frame situations in our mind in ways that make us feel powerless. "Thanks brain, but that's actually untrue - I do have control."

You have. more control than you give yourself credit for;)

 

[Ronin]

told me that my art looks amateurish

That is where every artist starts. :sneaky::tup:

 

[kasumigenx]

There seems to be a few hurtful relationship issues from the recent and long term past coming up...

I was not thought boundaries, that is the main problem in this time so I allowed this to happen but this is disturbing...and I was a minor at this point, so I had no consent..

 

[kasumigenx]

I admit, I find your short statements in all of your three created threads quite confusing... But thi...

I was told that I have symptoms.

 

[ladee]

We are just glad you are here. Hopefully we can help you get some answers and get things sorted out... sending hugs of welcome if you accept.

 

[Sideways]

It is definitely disturbing. I'm sorry that happened to you.

And if you're just scratching the surface of some bigger issues, that's ok. Take your time:)

 

[kasumigenx]

I am planning to go no contact with my immediate family before doing therapy.

 

[Sideways]

That's a big move!

Therapy doesn't have to be a big confronting "tell me everything" sort of thing. Mostly therapy is so that we have someone supporting us through tough times. That might be helpful when you stop contact with your family - having someone you can trust to support you through it.