yes it is. we are often told that domestic abuse sufferers needn't be pushed and shoved into therapy or bluntly told to get out or that they're being abused because 9/10: they already know. and it would just make them feel worse about their situation. and put the blame on them. as john mulaney famously said, "it is so much easier to not do things than to do them." maintaining the status quo. even if you are suffering. is easy.It's a lot to process.
but the whole purpose of treatment is to shake that up. and that means a lot of processing. that means your whole life is suddenly up in the air. it is challenging. and by taking a pause and focus on yourself and your treatment you are doing yourself and your family a huge service. it will not be easy. but it will be worth it to obtain a better life for all involved.