From an outsider, she’s saying you could be friends because she wants to give you a soft blow. If things were that hard for her to cope with, she would have just gone. Doesn’t really matter, what her intentions are here, you are gaining absolutely nothing by sitting around waiting, trying to figure out the what ifs, why’s, how’s, who’s. You aren’t going to benefit here.Sorry for seperate post here. Couldnt edit my previous to add this.
I just felt like it has been avoidance because she said we could be friends, then a week later said its not working (I messaged her once because she just got accepted to her masters so I congratulated her). Her actions of removing me completely from her life despite telling me we could be friends, just seemed drastic and avoidance as it was a removal to an extreme way.
As well as avoidance of the topic of our abortion, I realize its a tough topic and I would never want to force her to talk about it, but also if there was resentment or blame being held, I felt we should unpack it. But she altogether wanted to sweep it under the rug and hold that blame.