My Frustration

[crashmoon]

Freedomfighter, I agree, it shouldn't be this way. I'm so sorry about your father, but the way you stated it it sounds as though you've gotten away from that. Good for you!!!:inlove: I only wish there was somewhere else for me to go. I feel like I'm losing myself being here, they chip away at me everyday because they know they can and its a horrible feeling.

 

[joeylittle]

Also, they both state repeatedly that there's no reason to get anyone else involved. I'm trapped.

Well, just because that's what they say, it doesn't mean they are right - or, that's the way it needs to be. I don't mean to make it sound any easier than it is. Consider reaching out to the special ed teacher, just think about it. Sending you support.

 

[EveHarrington]

I believe you, too. :hug:

I think that most people can and should have boundaries. If she's able to take classes, she's able to learn about appropriate and inappropriate behavior IMHO.

I honestly think your grandparents are doing her a HUGE disservice by allowing this behavior. What happens when she dies? I'm guessing some sort of group home perhaps? I don't think that kind of behavior would fly in that environment.

I urge you to work on becoming independent so that you can move out of that house. I really urge you to report what happened to you, not necessarily for the purpose of punishment, but so your aunt can learn about how to behave properly so that she doesn't hurt other people (especially when she's out of the protection of your grandparents). I'm not excusing her behavior in the least. I'm not trying to minimize your suffering either. :hug: Suffering has nothing to do with who the perpetrator is. (It's kind of sickening-------like if a mentally ill person axe murdered your family would you be expected to just get over it? No.)

 

[crashmoon]

Joey, thank you so much for your support. I will talk with my therapist about reporting her or reaching out to the teacher. Thank you:hug:

 

[crashmoon]

Eve, same thing. I will talk with my therapist :) thank you so much for your support:hug::inlove:

 

[Deleted member 33052]

Hey, crash, I know this is a long shot, but is there any way you could work things out with your dad and his girlfriend? Maybe you could hammer out some rules and boundaries...? As bad as the lying and stealing are, at least you don't have to live in fear there. :hug:

 

[crashmoon]

Mal, I haven't told you guys everything regarding my dad and his girlfriend.

Incredibly long story short, I have a spinal disease and I take pain meds. That's where the lying and stealing come in. But she's introduced him to so much more than just stealing from me... My father is also emotionally and mentally abusive, and whenever he is drunk he is very violent. He recently broke her tooth because he was angry at ME for not supplying him with my pain pills. He's also continually told me ever since I moved out and he lost his hold over me, that he hates me and I'll never be his daughter again. He's also waved his gun in my face before.

In short, that's not an option either. However, thank you as always for your concern and care:hug::inlove:

 

[Deleted member 33052]

Mal, I haven't told you guys everything regarding my dad and his girlfriend.

Incredibly long story s...

Crash, I'm sorry. :( I didn't mean to bring up the ugly.

There may still be other options. Do you qualify for disability benefits? I'm not sure how things work down there... And big **hug** back.

 

[crashmoon]

Mal, it's okay, you didn't know! That's why you asked :)
I'm not sure how things work either. My dad is on disability but he's lied to me about everything so I'm sure I have a distorted view of that as well. It's something to look into though!

 

[Freedomfighter]

My suffering is real. What happened to me was real and awful and not okay.
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I think a lot of people simply shut off when they hear such stories. Yet, they are readily watching TV shows that throw all kinds of nonsense at them every day.

Go figure