Supporter My girlfriend has PTSD

[nelaguns]

Hi guys my girlfriend has 2 boys 1 girl she was in an abusive relationship for 7 years with her ex-husband on Tuesday this week I said something that triggered her ptsd and she asked me for space I've often slept over her house a lot she even asked me to move in but I said it's to fast I want her kids to feel comfortable around me first now I've fallen in love with her and her kids and it hurts that she asked for space I read that when woman ask for space it's over but then I searched ptsd and it's different I also asked if she wants me to get my stuff she said it will be fine at her house just clothes and spare keys for my Ranger, also she first approached me asked me out any help to ease my mind will be much appreciated

 

[Riley Jones]

Hello, it's great that you are reaching out for support during this challenging time. It's important to recognize that individuals who have experienced trauma, such as your girlfriend with PTSD from an abusive relationship, may be triggered by certain situations or comments. It's positive that you are seeking to understand more about PTSD and its effects on your relationship.

It's important to respect your girlfriend's request for space, as it can be a coping mechanism for individuals dealing with PTSD. Giving her the time and space she needs doesn't necessarily mean the end of the relationship, but rather a way for her to manage her emotions and triggers. Communication is key in situations like this, so when the time feels right, having an open and honest conversation about your feelings and concerns can help you both navigate through this difficult period.

In the meantime, seeking support from others who have experienced similar challenges can be beneficial. Consider reaching out to the community at myptsd.com. This platform provides a safe space for individuals to share their experiences, find support, and connect with others who understand what they're going through. There are specific forums on the site dedicated to topics related to PTSD and complex PTSD that may offer insights and guidance.

Remember, it's okay to seek professional help as well. Therapy can provide valuable tools and strategies to help both you and your girlfriend navigate through the complexities of PTSD and relationships. Take care of yourself during this time, and remember that you are not alone in this journey.

 

[nelaguns]

Much APPRECIATE it thank you so much I really needed to read that she's a really great human being I liked her when she asked me out cause of course she is GORGEOUS but when I saw how she is as a MOTHER to her 3 babies that was the CHERRY on top and i was in LOVR, she is worth waiting for thank you so much once again .

 

[Kitalia]

I definitely think that a lot of people misinterpret a request for space. As someone with C-PTSD I have asked for space a couple of times and had those people then reject me and end the relationship seemingly preemptively. Had they shown me some patient kindness the relationships would have continued once I had grounded myself and found my footing again.

If you really do care for her, respecting boundaries and letting her have space when requested is be really important.

Good luck

 

[nelaguns]

I definitely think that a lot of people misinterpret a request for space. As someone with C-PTSD I have asked for space a couple of times and had those people then reject me and end the relationship seemingly preemptively. Had they shown me some patient kindness the relationships would have continued once I had grounded myself and found my footing again.

If you really do care for her, respecting boundaries and letting her have space when requested is be really important.

Good luck

Kitalia I love her so much and I am willing to give her all the space she needs and I will be here for her in wondai queensland 110% of the

 

[Kitalia]

Kitalia I love her so much and I am willing to give her all the space she needs and I will be here for her in wondai queensland 110% of the

Im very happy to hear it

 

[WarriorPrincess]

Hi Nelaguns - I hope you are well. Is your girlfriend still needing space or did have you "reunited" so to speak?

When I read your post I had an emotional response immediately because I felt connected to your girlfriend's perspective. I have two kids and I am dating someone (going on 3 years now) and we are navigating my C-PTSD from my 20 year relationship with my emotionally abusive ex-husband.

I feel for you.

It is not easy to navigate this terrain. I find it really difficult to ask for space when I need it but when I do and my boyfriend responds by immediately allowing me time apart from him, I feel so grateful. It is so reassuring to ask for what I need (something I did not do for years and years and years) and then have my significant other respond positively by listening to me, respecting me, allowing me time. Not rushing me.

When I do that, when I ask him for things I need and he is responsive, it just seals my love for him even more. Every single time. Because it is so difficult for me to ask because I'm so worried about how it will make him feel even though I know it is what I need.

Just remember, it doesn't have to do with you. She is not doing it to get away from you (or at least that is not why I do it in my situation, I don't want to speak for your girlfriend). It is because I am hurting and I need time and stillness and quiet in order to process all the changes happening in my life. It takes me alot to adjust to things.

(I have never posted on here before, I just became a member today so please let me know how I'm doing and how you received this message. Thank you!)

- WarriorPrincess