My Husband Just Told Me He's Leaving Me

[Thizette]

That is wrong on so many levels. Did he or your son tell you about their conversation? Sne...

Manipulative bastard, I'd say. He's gone and controlled how the information is presented.

 

[Deleted member 33052]

I'm finding this far less amusing today. I'm sad. I feel like a complete and utter failure.

 

[Bfab]

You are NOT a failure. Another person's decisions don't define who you are in life. Be sure to speak positive affirmations while you go through this obstacle.
My husband left me and I went through every feeling known to man, from suicidal to empowered. Two years later, I'm happier than I've been in years. You will find your happy place too.

The best revenge is your happiness and peace.

 

[Chimera]

Oh Mal, I am heartbroken for you.
Please be kind to yourself, stay busy, listen to and spend time with your boy...
Create. Express this in some healthy medium...get it out of you.
If you ever need/want to talk, I would gladly do anything I could to ease you during this..♡

(((((Mal))))

 

[UnKnown-Self]

((((( mal)))))
If you were blindsided by this you are probably in shock.
It might help to check out the stages of grieving, the difference being the bastards still alive. Which means you have someone to be angry at and that is both good and bad.
You mentioned how he had been spending more time with your son and I'm not saying it wasn't done out of love but if he had been thinking of this for a while he had many opportunities to... Plant seeds seemingly harmless but it really bothers me he talked to your son alone.
Work with your T and vent here. Get out as much as you can in a safe place so you don't atom bomb

You are strong and can handle it. Be very aware of your self talk, don't beat yourself up Please! I know how hard that is but it feeds the anger and you don't want that.
I know it takes two to tango as well as make or break a relationship. But you are one of us and we are here for you.

 

[UnKnown-Self]

On a lighter note you can cut his face out of a photo, one you won't regret cutting later . Put in in your shoe and walk all over him all day long.. I have actually done this and while it didn't work miracles, it kinda lifted my spirits a little.
I even ate some gassy food sat on his picture and tooted.

I never told anyone that until now.


Just take care of yourself. :hug:

 

[EveHarrington]

:hug:

 

[Zanshin]

I'm finding this far less amusing today. I'm sad. I feel like a complete and utter failure.

Not to be rude, but you're wrong. You're in a down moment in a down time. That isn't utter failure. Give the inner critic some caramels to chew on so their mouth is stuck shut and they can't feed you this nonsense. ;) You need support from your brain right now, not negative input.

 

[Mytime]

Mal I'm so sorry to hear your pain my friend. I would love for you to sit with me now and take a deep breath in and as you release it, let out your pain. Now look at the forum, see us all. We are your support, we are all here because we love and care about you. You have made a difference in everyone's life here. You have supported us, made us laugh and at times cried with us. You are a woman of integrity, great strength, compassion, kindness, and so loveable. When you're in that place of self blame, in the darkness of hurt. I hope you come to the forum, and see how everyone here sees you. Mal you are a beautiful person and a great mother. Don't let anyone take that from you. I am here for you, you know how to find me when you need me at any time. You are in my prayers and Mal Thank you for being you . :hug:

 

[Fadeaway]

[GALLERY=media, 3166]Mall by Fadeaway posted May 15, 2016 at 2:25 AM[/GALLERY]

 

[Deleted member 33052]

I'm going to survive this. And he is not going to walk away unscathed.

 

[Zanshin]

The first sentence is the most important. Survival is way more important than revenge, focus on yourself and your kids.