Sweetpea76
Moderator
Honestly, I’d wait to give him the letter... Have you been telling him how much you love him and how much you want to save the marriage? If so, how’s he been reacting to that?
If he cannot handle his own emotions right now, he cannot handle yours.
What I would do is be suuuuuuuuuper calm around him. No dramatic letters or declarations of love. At the most I’d verbally tell him you love him, and you love him so much that you’re going to be chill and respect his boundaries/give him space. Then actually do that...
My bet is he’ll come back around. You can’t just move your ex into base housing and let her live there without you if you’re the sponsor. That’s not his decision... he’ll get his ass ripped. If he wasn’t planning on coming back he would turn down the housing, send you home, and go live in the Bs.
However, if in a few weeks he seems serious about the divorce, I’d start looking for a new place, because you’re not going to be able to stay in that house.
You’ve tried the hysterical reaction... give calm a try. It’s better for both your mental health.
If he cannot handle his own emotions right now, he cannot handle yours.
What I would do is be suuuuuuuuuper calm around him. No dramatic letters or declarations of love. At the most I’d verbally tell him you love him, and you love him so much that you’re going to be chill and respect his boundaries/give him space. Then actually do that...
My bet is he’ll come back around. You can’t just move your ex into base housing and let her live there without you if you’re the sponsor. That’s not his decision... he’ll get his ass ripped. If he wasn’t planning on coming back he would turn down the housing, send you home, and go live in the Bs.
However, if in a few weeks he seems serious about the divorce, I’d start looking for a new place, because you’re not going to be able to stay in that house.
You’ve tried the hysterical reaction... give calm a try. It’s better for both your mental health.