My Son Is Moving Out With Mates

[Eleanor]

CC - on the upside - another adult in the house who can cook is always a good thing! Make sure he moves back in as an adult (just enough responsibility to make it a bit of a pain, and just enough restriction to make it worth moving out again eventually!)

My older brother - a million years ago - was once overheard saying to a friend, "There is always food, my mom does my laundry, and the house is always clean and it is free. Why would I move out?" Why indeed?!?!?:D

 

[Nicolette]

My son leaving is being digested. I notice not just being able to say something to him and I have to stop myself from messaging him to see what is going on.

He seems happy so far and that is all I want. He also has picked up extra shifts and is working two jobs so let the reality begin.

There is a side of me at peace with him moving out as I had, for now, done all he was prepared to listen to as he thinks he is grown up. Now I wait and watch and hope he survives. I did really well leaving home with nothing and never ended up back there. I think he might be okay too and he has much more support than what I had.

I'm here for him if he needs me, I miss him terribly, but he is also now a man and not my baby boy. In my heart he will always be my baby boy but my job now is to support him through becoming an adult.

Love him to bits, miss him terribly but also feel some relief as he needed his own space. Being woken up at all hours was frustrating me even though I know he tried to be quiet.

 

[Nicolette]

We were invited over to visit my son yesterday as we have not seen his house. I am pleased to say he cleaned his room for our visit. To me that demonstrated some pride and respect which I'm proud to see.

He seems happy and that's what counts.

Took him a 6 pack of beer as a house warming gift as figured he would kill a plant until I saw the weed growing down inside the crack in the kitchen wall and had to laugh as it was alive :laugh::whistling:. They (two of them) are living in a sub-divided house and the house needs major maintenance. For them it is cheap rent and a roof over their heads which is theirs..... so starts the journey to becoming an adult.

We took him the percolator and the Breville (sandwich maker) which he had been eying off. I think toasties are easier than cooking! Oh well, he is finding himself which is good.

 

[KP the nut]

My daughter also moved into a new house this weekend. I worry so much about her.

She has time off work over Easter and wants to come home for a week. I can't wait.

 

[Nicolette]

I think that makes three of us KP:

1. You
2. Me
3. Nighthawlk

 

[Nicolette]

Anthony's view:

 

[KP the nut]

Nope, H, misses them as much as me - until they come home for a few days :confused:.

Seriously, our relationship has changed for the better. I think they no longer see it as parents vs children. They seem to appreciate us a lot more and the times we spend together are all the more precious.

 

[Whitneys story]

Hugs to all of you! No it is never easy but it will get easier! I am lighting candles for your peace! Hugs Whitney:x3:

 

[a3a2]

My oldest called me from high school last week in a minor crisis. I got to his side as fast as I could (probably should have let him ride the storm a little), all the time wondering what it would be like when he was an adult and I couldn't rush to the rescue.

Hugs to you, Nicollette. I'm glad I have a few more years before I get there.

 

[Nighthawk]

This is not easy. Suffering to the core for me anyway.

 

[Abrasky]

Congratulations Nicolette and Anthony. I think it means you did a good job when they are flying.:)

 

[Nicolette]

This is not easy. Suffering to the core for me anyway.

No it's not easy NH - you have to find a positive within it and focus on that.... even if that positive is your child is becoming an adult and that is part of your job as a good parent - to let them go with love.