General My Son's Death is Tearing Me Apart

[Jim]

Argh. Time to surrender I reckon. Too many females! ;-)

Jim.

 

[Marlene]

Jim,

A smart man knows when's he's outmanned and outgunned...especially when it's a lot of females doing it. Nice to know you're a smart man. :wink:

Lisa

 

[anthony]

Argh... smart man, knows when to retreat. I am still learning, though certainly do know when to typically run nowadays. You still have far more experience on your side than I yet Jim.... yet I dare say another decade or two from me, and I will run sooner myself.

 

[Nicolette]

I am still learning, though certainly do know when to typically run nowadays. You still have far more experience on your side than I yet Jim.... yet I dare say another decade or two from me, and I will run sooner myself.

Well, what do I say to this Anthony?! Glad to read you are still learning as improvement is good :wink:. Keep the runners on and quit (start running) sooner rather than later and we'll be just fine and dandy. :poke:

 

[Kathy]

Well it seems my thread has gone completely off topic whilst I was away! :rolleyes: However, thank you all for doing so, this is one time where I have truly appreciated it. It quite cheered me to read!

I will now bring it back on topic. I had a wonderful 48 hours in the city with my sister. It truly was what the doctor ordered, as Jim stated. I feel refreshed and able to tackle my grief once more. My sister is now here visiting, which is lovely as we are very close and everyone adores her. I will be returning to the therapist this week to discuss treatment options. It is likely I will have to wait some time for a therapist, as there is a shortage of them here. Fortunately I have started a private diary which is helping me to deal with issues I do not feel comfortable sharing publicly. Much thanks to you Anthony for your assistance! I will keep you all updated.

 

[Nicolette]

Glad to hear you are feeling better Kathy and that you are getting some help whilst you await therapy.

From speaking with Evie I understand your sister is delightful and fun person so her staying can only be good for all.

 

[Jen]

Kathy glad you are feeling a bit more positive. Its nice to have a sister that you are close to as she would be someone you could confide in?
I have two close sisters who I know will always be there for me the only problem is they live a long way away!

 

[jods]

I'm glad you are feeling recharged Kathy, it's amazing what a few days away can do to help lift your spirits.

Hope you have a great time with your sister!

 

[wildcritter44]

Glad to hear your doing better !

:hello: Hi Kathy,

You are lucky to have a sister. I have two 1/2 brothers 10 and 14 yrs older, living 250 away or 2,000 miles away...

I am very happy you are doing so much better and able to help yourself. You are so very strong...

My prayers are with you.

Hugs to you and your family...:Hug_emoticon:

Take Care

Donna

 

[Kathy]

Thank you ladies. Yes Nicolette, my sister Judith is a very "cool" person according to the children, they all love her. She is a big fan of comics, especially Spiderman, so she gets along quite well with Evie. She's a joy to have around, and yes Jen I do confide in her.

I am fortunate to have two of my three sisters living in eastern Canada, though not on the island, and not terribly close, however I still get to see them fairly often. My third sister lives in New Zealand and I have not seen her in over 10 years. Though Jim and I keep planning to visit NZ one of these days!

 

[Kathy]

Today has been particularly difficult for remembering Brian and dealing with his death. Evie has been quite out of sorts and if I am honest so have I. I am uncertain if it is being exacerbated by Colin's deployment, however today was quite painful. I have been in tears or on the verge of tears, off and on for the entire day. Tonight I was most grateful to have found some general editing duties to do upon the forum, as I needed something to distract me. Chronic distraction is not good, however tonight I simply do not want to think about my grief anymore. All day was long enough and I do so wish to have a break from this sadness!

 

[anthony]

I concur Kathy.... everyone deserves a break from sadness at times, and your dealing with that typically.... so enjoy your break please. Sorry that you feel so sad Kathy.... I know your going to get much better quite soon though. Nobody can tell you to stop hurting Kathy, because that is your choice and it depends on the reasons you hurt, ie. punishing yourself or just sadness for not having Brian with you. Big difference between the two though. Please take care of yourself Kathy.... you have a rough ride still ahead yet.