My t keeps pissing off one of my parts...

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I think there’s some type of connection between this and my main protector part.

 

[EveHarrington]

I think is good to go SLOW!

The way to the part in question is by working with your protectors first.

I’d start by talking to the protectors. Reassure them that you appreciate what they have done to keep you safe. Let them know that SELF can handle anything that comes your way.

I confess, I didn’t have to do much work with my protectors as they all stepped down pretty quickly. I’m now in a place where I’m dealing with the pain of my exile child parts. I say this as I don’t have any experience in dealing with difficult protective parts.

 

[Muted]

I think is good to go SLOW!

The way to the part in question is by working with your protectors f...

We initially seemed to deal with my protectors pretty well also and they stepped aside and it was hell dealing with those childhood parts (as you know) but this part is a little tricky, because I don’t get it and either the part or my main protector won’t let me verbalize my thoughts on it.

I thought this main protector was kind of dealt with, but I should have known better, because when he gets tripped, he is quite capable and completely takes over without anyone knowing he has control. Then, by the time they realize what’s happening it’s too late...

 

[Freida]

@EveHarrington thanks for the vote of confidence --- no pressure! :p

It kind of sounds like it is rebelling against being questioned by someone on the outside. Does it feel trapped by the expectation that it should know the answer, and may be punished if it doesn't? That might be what is activating the protectors. Or it may have something specific it wants to talk about and gets annoyed when its not heard. It could be that it either the T is asking the wrong question or the part wants to lead the conversation itself.

Another thought --- if it's a child part it may be to young to follow more than a one or two word question. If it's confused it would make sense it would run away

So..... Rather than have the t ask it questions can you just ask the part what it wants to say? Not what it wants to have happen, because it might not know the bigger picture of "this" leads to "that". If its a child part you might need to give it a chance to speak in child language.

Thoughts?

 

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@EveHarrington thanks for the vote of confidence --- no pressure! :p

It kind of sou...

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I don’t think it’s the questions per say, I think it might be her making innacurate connections or conclusions between two things. Maybe my therapist just can’t understand this, I don’t know...

I do think my t is asking the wrong questions. I don’t think this is as simple as she’s thinking. I don’t think it’s a child part. I do think the part wants to talk, but I’m stopping it from saying what it wants to say. My protector is aligning with me on this.