Need A Sense Of Security. Security Objects.

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I have spent a lot of time thinking about this. Trying o figure out what I need and what would help. I know have a great sense of urgency on this due to recent events that have taken place in the last few days.

I am looking for a comfort object of sorts. I have been trying to brainstorm ideas and hoping you guys can help me. Here is a bit of criteria I need.

One, I t needs to have some sentimental value. I am not really sure how to get that at all. I really don't understand how something becomes sentimental. I have had a few material objects in the past that meant something to me, but they were all stolen and destroyed back when I was a teen/early 20's.

Hence the next need. It needs to be something that I don't fear losing, which is the point of why I need it. Something that can be the one consistent in my life. Which is why it needs to be something I can possibly attach to my body.

I would like to use this object to help ground me, so texture is kind of important. Something tangible.

I thought about a tattoo, but you can't really feel a tattoo on your skin, and I am not one for having tattoos that can't be easily hidden. A tattoos on my shoulder or hip isn't going to help much if I can't see it either. and those are the only two places I would put a tattoo and my shoulders are taken.

I feel like all sense of identity has been stolen from me, including the name I choose to replace the one that I was given out of cruelty at birth because i was born a girl and not a boy.

Mods, is there a way to fix the spelling in my title?
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First thought is dog, but yes she will likely die before I do. Utterly tangible, and not permanent. Needs, I take care of better than my own. FB she gets up and jumps on the bed, grounding, or just moves around on her bed shacking her collar tags, grounding.

A nice rock that you can carry in a pocket, touch stone.

 

[desiderata310]

I like the idea of a rock. Or.. a necklace of some sort with a smooth stone or even a locket.

 

[Fadeaway]

I have a cat who is older. I live in fear of losing her. Like I said I need something I can't lose.

Any ideas on how to add sentimental feelings to something like a stone or locket?

 

[desiderata310]

MMM!! yes!
Lockets can have a picture inside. OR they have the kind that can be a little different and be the kind that you make out of charms of things that are important to you.
Ummm.. terrible for instance: I love tri's so I would get something that would allow me to have a charm of a figure swimming biking and running.
But if you had a favorite flower you could get that flattened

You could chose a stone from a trip to the beach you enjoyed or a hike that made you feel peaceful.

 

[desiderata310]

I have another idea.
I have a lovely stone. I found it my first day walking on the beach of my new home. I've been carrying it with me for a while to help give me some peace and it has helped but I'm happy to pass it along to someone who could use it. I've been using it as a grounding stone.

It's yours. Let me know if I can send it to you. It will be a gift from someone who understands this PTSD stuff and in a way that will make it special.

 

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@desiderata310 Mind if I PM you?

 

[desiderata310]

Please do

 

[ReachingOutJ]

This might sound childish, but I cuddle my fleece jacket like it is a teddy bear, and I never go anywhere without it. I feel so broken.

 

[sun seeker]

It's yours. Let me know if I can send it to you.

This is such a beautiful solution. It makes me feel warm inside to read this.

I have a collection of heart-shaped rocks. Most I've found, some are gifts from friends. I'd be happy to send one of the ones I've found to each of you to keep the exchange of energy moving, if you'd like. PM me and let me know.

 

[sun seeker]

This might sound childish, but I cuddle my fleece jacket like it is a teddy bear

It's sad for me to hear that you are concerned about sounding childish. We have child parts that are wounded and need comfort, and it's a very good thing when we can provide it for ourselves. I have a teddy bear I cuddle when in a regressed state, and it helps. I'm sorry you are in so much pain.

 

[ReachingOutJ]

It's sad for me to hear that you are concerned about sounding childish. We have child parts that are...

Thank you for your kindness. I am in a lot of pain, and I'm scared.