Need Help Identifying This Feeling

[sun seeker]

I'm trying to come up with a statement to use EFT on, and it's getting cumbersome. I can't think how to summarize what I need to work on as one or even two emotions. What do you call the feeling that you are such a bad person that if people knew who you really were everyone would hate you, and would be justified in hating you, and your life is a lie and you are so bad you can never be fixed and should just curl up in a corner and die, maybe painfully?

I'm not trying to be dramatic, though I know it is coming out that way. I really want to know so I can work on this.

 

[Friday]

Self loathing

 

[sun seeker]

I thought of that one, but it doesn't cover the feeling that everyone would be justified in hating me I don't think. What do I call that?

 

[sun seeker]

Maybe self loathing plus undeserving. Or unworthy. That would cover at least some of it.

Thanks Friday.

 

[Suzetig]

Worthless? My therapist uses worthless to describe my feelings about me and your OP describes exactly how I feel about me.

 

[sun seeker]

It's a combination of things @Suzetig. Worthless is one part of it, self loathing another, and I think undeserving needs to come into it somewhere. Still not sure even that is all of it.

Sorry to hear you feel the same way!

 

[Suzetig]

You may not be able to catch all of it at this stage, way I've found is that as I identify one feeling I have about myself and work through that, another equally negative way of thinking/feeling pops up and takes its place. Work with what you know just now and don't worry about catching it all right now, it'll come in time.

 

[Senecia]

I always figured undeserving fell under worthlessness, but that's just me. I'd say worthlessness and self-loathing. Hope everything is coming along well.

 

[sun seeker]

Hmm. Does undeserving fall under worthlessness? Let me think about that one a bit. I got a bit sidetracked, but I can count on these feelings to come up again.:( Thanks for the good wishes.

You're right Suzetig, I can just start with what I can figure out. Thanks for reminding me.

 

[joeylittle]

guilt and shame.

Though in terms of an EFT set-up, it would be totally ok to use "...it makes me feel like I am such a bad person, if people knew who I really was they would hate me" - and in a separate round, " ...feel like my life is a lie and will never be fixed and I should die a painful death"

It's less important that you boil it down to a shortcut word, and more important that you be as specific as you can. Since you had two different things in your description, I'd recommend two different rounds on the same event.

 

[PlainJane]

Reprehensible with a combo of other said feelings? Or is that not appropriate?

 

[StellaBlue]

What do you call the feeling that you are such a bad person that if people knew who you really were everyone would hate you, and would be justified in hating you.

@joeylittle already said it, but this right here is shame.