Need Help On How To Proceed

[WhyAnon]

Been dating this guy about 6 weeks now. Military vet current LEO.

For the past 8 days he has completely shut me out. Has not initiated contact once. I have reached out a few times during the week keeping it light and casual, I asked if he was interested in going to do something we had discussed in the past and he inquired when I was going. He has responded to me immediately, but there is zero interest in keeping the conversation going. Cold, withdraw, uninterested, unemotional beyond him being extremely angry. This happened directly after intimacy.

I inquired as to why and got: I don't want to talk about it.

That was two days ago, have not heard from him since.

I am not sure how to proceed. He obviously does not want to open up to me, I don't know what's wrong. I don't know if this is a result of me? Him not interested, or him withdrawing due to triggers, or something job related.

All I know is what I saw on FB. Someone reached out to him to speak to him privately, he's been withdrawn for a week, I know he has sleeping problems, he does not take script meds because they were messing with him, but if he doesn't take OTC PM pills he will be awake for days.

My knee jerk reaction to someone doing this to me is to lash out. I've learned to control that and I basically just withdraw myself, just so I won't say or do anything I regret.

Can someone please tell me what I can say to him, what I can do? We are not in a relationship. I thought we were on a path to something, but after this week I'm not even sure he wants anything to do with me anymore. I know he's active on FB, I know he's talking to other people. I don't know what I did.

I need help. Guidance. Something. :(

 

[Friday]

This early on in a relationship... Or maybe relationship... There's no way to tell. He could be isolating or he could just not be interested in pursuing anything with you.

 

[Ronin]

Well, you say yourself you're not in a relationship so far? I'd give it time, first. And I wouldn't take personally him talking to other people; it doesn't mean you've done anything wrong, it may just mean he's busy and relationship status with you isn't on his mind so far.

 

[missyfjr]

Wish I could give you some advice but, neither people, or their actions', have ever been my forte so I really just wanted to say I hope the situation works out ok for you.

 

[Ccspec]

I'm in the same boat. My guy disappears over 2 weeks ago . We dated for a month , things were amazing and one day he disappeared with no regard. I sent a few messages but I think he even blocked my number. I'm starting to get over it now but it was tough . I still think about him but I've learned to let go. This will always be a thorn that I couldn't remove because I had no closure. I'm talking to someone else now but he is always in the back of my mind. People said this is the norm and after a lot of consideration I realized that even if he does return it's not a norm I will be able to live with. I hope you find comfort.