Need Some Encouragement

[Nicole0317]

My T would like for me to bring in some of my emails I have sent her so that we could adress them. And I know she obviously is not gonna remember every email she has other clients and interns to but it took everything for me to send those emails and I really don't know if I can just print them off and bring them in that would be like re sending the email again and I just don't know if I can do it

 

[Nighthawk]

I don't understand why your T dpes not print them and bring them up. She has acess to them. If you are not ready just tell her.

 

[seedling]

What does she mean by "some"? Is there one of them you would be able to bring in? You don't have to do more than that. Choose for yourself what you would be ready to discuss in therapy.

 

[ghotiff]

Sounds like you are not ready. I'm a big believer in going slowly, so I would wait.

Is there a topic from your emails that you remember and want to address. Maybe you could discuss that topic and not find the old email.

If you do want to find the emails but are finding it difficult, here is a broken down process to help you.
- go to sent email
- filter emails to those sent to your t
- create new folder
- move these emails to the folder
If one of these emails "calls" to you, forward it to your T with the header "please print".

Hope that helps.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

So I take it you've sent her many emails and she wants to discuss what you've said in those emails. Can you just talk about the contents of those emails without printing them? Your therapist is just trying to address what you have written to her, and she has assumed that since you took the time to write to her, that you are ready to talk about what you wrote. It sounds like she's telling you to print out some of them so that you can choose what to talk about in your next session. I think it may be a good idea to push yourself to print those emails and take them in to discuss with her.

 

[falling_wave]

You could respond by asking her to print the ones she feels would be important to address first. That way you are putting it back on her but with valid reason. That way you don't have to print them again but you are still working forward by addressing them which I assume is why you sent them.

 

[Nicole0317]

uh well I sent them to aware her of it I guess cause basically the email she is talking about which if you have seen my very first thread is how I couldn't do EMDR because my safe place turns into a terrifying place and can't close my eyes but I can't visualize a place with my eyes open either and etc... if that makes since @falling_wave

 

[falling_wave]

So maybe you can ask her to bring it up so you won't lose confidence. Maybe also talk about if emdr is even a good fit for you. It's not for everyone. With other types of therapy you may not need to be able to have that safe place until you are ready to do it for yourself. Sometimes it takes dealing with the now before you can deal with the past. You can't find a safe place if you don't actually feel safe in the moment. It's for when you do feel safe you have a point of reference to work with the past stuff.