Yes. It is very much possible to 'get over'. Although it's not so much getting over, but breaking the silence, discussing your feelings around it, and changing the way you think. You clearly have a lot of negative self-beliefs, which need to become more positive. It can be done, though. Have a good read around the forum, particularly the 'story' and 'diary' sections, if it's not too triggering for you. This will show you how other members are trying to deal with those negative attitudes. The first thing you need to do is 'break the silence'. Try to write about what happened to you, or talk about it with a therapist. This will begin to unburden you of any secrets, which helps to relieve shame. It also helps if you can place blame correctly. We often think it's some how our fault. If you were abused or assaulted, it is not your fault. The abuser makes us feel guilty, and dirty. Sexual abuse/assault isn't about sex, it's about power. You need to find a way to regain your power, your strength. You can do it, it can be done, but it doesn't happen over night, and it's something you have to work at. Also accept that there will be ups and downs throughout the process. This is normal, just don't give up :)