Neighbors!

[Deleted member 29920]

Oh wow, she's making a big fuss over nothing, I'd go about my business as normal. I wonder if her husband left her because she was so damn fussy.

 

[Neverthesame]

They also do a bait and switch when they show the apartments. They show a furnished apartment that isn't near anyone, but then move people in to a completely different apartment without them seeing it first

I can see why this would upset someone for sure. Hell, this would make me extremely angry...... at the management. Not the people living around me that have had nothing to do with it.

I think it's great that you care so much for other's feelings. You sound like a very nice person. But this sounds like one of those times when having empathy towards someone has become toxic to you.

If you really want to be silent as possible, you might want to switch to a diet of chicken wings and jello shooters. No noisy cutlery required. Ha. ;)

October is just round the corner, you're almost there. :hug:

 

[Beemo3780]

I actually lost it today. After yesterday's pounding because the dog was chewing on her chew bone at 3pm on a Friday afternoon, I woke up feeling like I was going to have a panic attack. Felt like that most of the morning. The skin crawling, feeling like an elephant on my chest type feeling. We went out for the day, stopped home so my husband could change before we were heading back out for a dinner and a movie at 5ish. Neither one of us were moving at all in the apartment because we were looking through the mail in our kitchen, and the lady downstairs just started pounding for a good 5 minutes. It sounded like she was walking in a circle in her living room pounding on her ceiling.

I lost it. I started screaming through the floor, "We aren't even moving! You are not a nice person!" And started crying. So yea, this lady is pushing my buttons. I still feel tons of anxiety.

Monday morning, my husband is going down to talk to management again, and he said if they don't have a plan to resolve this, that we will be calling the cops every time she pounds and will be pressing harassment charges. This lady has been here almost 3 weeks, and it's been pounding since she moved in.

 

[Beemo3780]

I think this may have been resolved. I hope.

My husband went down early Monday morning before work to talk to the office manager for our apartment complex. The manager kept telling him at first that quiet hours start at 11pm and we just had to try and keep it down after then. But my husband told him that no, her pounding on her ceiling was happening all throughout the day before 11pm and mostly on weekends. My husband said that if she doesn't stop pounding on her ceiling, which is harassment at this point, we will be calling the police.

Apparently, the lady downstairs keeps calling them and complaining about the "kids" above her and how she can hear us. She can hear us walking, and moving around in our apartment. Yes, that is her complaint, that she can hear people living above her. And we are hardly kids, we are in our mid to late 30s.

The lady below her who sometimes has her grandkids visit has had problems with her as well though. There's also a handicapped woman that lives with her daughter on the 1st floor that has been having issues with our neighbor parking in her spot. The handicapped peoples' spots are the only ones reserved, and they have numbers painted on them, and there are always plenty of extra spots available, as most people have their own garages or covered spots. Our neighbor has started only leaving her apartment when I wake up for work at 6am and coming back at 8am right after my husband leaves. I'm not sure if this is a coincidence. But sure enough, she makes sure to park in the same spot with the painted reserve number on it right after the other lady and her daughter leave for the day.

Management said that they are consulting their attorney about the situation. We had to write up a list documenting all the times she was pounding and they would at least call her to tell her to stop. And they may have called her yesterday because I heard her yelling and throwing stuff around.

I don't know if I feel any better about the situation though. It definitely seems like at least the pounding will stop, but now I worry that this woman is just going to become vengeful. I just emailed our mortgage broker this morning about how our loan process is going, so maybe we can get out of here sooner. It's crazy that there are people like this in the world. They seem to not care about anyone but themselves.

 

[Neverthesame]

Good for you standing up for yourself.
She may try to get vindictive, but I don't think you should worry about it too much. Since she's been a bag to everyone around her, it won't be difficult to refute anything she says to anyone.

If your building management really is looking into the forceful eviction process, she's got more reason to go at them not you.

If you want to be safe, make sure to document any interaction you have with her or management about her. Bit of basic butt covering, should be more than enough to deal with anything out of the blue.

Hope it works out for you. You sound like you need a few days without the noise.

 

[Beemo3780]

An update to this. The good news is that the constant pounding has stopped, but only after it escalated. The apt management didn't do anything, and refused to get involved. We kept covering all our bases and writing them letters with all the times she was harassing us. Then like 2 weeks ago, it was 8pm on a Friday night. We had just gotten in from dinner, our apartment was absolutely silent and she started pounding on her ceiling screaming at us to shut up. She was right below me, just screaming and pounding for a good 5 minutes and was following me around. My husband had enough, and called the police. The police came out, and she wouldn't answer her door, must have thought it was my husband, so the officer pounded on her door and yelled "police". He came back up and told us she was pounding on her ceiling because she can hear "people living" above her. He told her that if he has to come out again, we can file harassment charges against her.

So, that pretty much stopped that part. Her downstairs neighbor saw me out with the dog the next morning and thanked me, because she was getting to that point herself. We told the office management what had happened, and they kept apologizing to us and have been really nice since, but that really doesn't excuse them for not doing anything about the situation.

Fast forward to now, we had a little hiccup with getting our home loan approved, and are working on cleaning up some credit stuff. That's been stressful enough, but what's worse is the lunatic downstairs has decided to do other weird things. Now she stares through her window at us whenever we are outside. Just stands there and stares. And when we come up the stairs, she has opened her apartment door a crack and glare at us until we passed by. It's insane.

And now she has someone staying with her, this older guy, and they are so loud and I'm not sure if they are doing it on purpose. She screamed at my husband's coworkers through the floor when they came over, yet she can have someone over and scream and yell and leave her tv on until 2am?

Nevertheless, I've stopped trying to tiptoe around the around. I really can't wait to get out of here.