@FridayJones
I get what you say about humor in those jobs. I myself coped with humor during my two years caring for ill and/or wounded kids from warzones. Humor was essentiall and very natural. Came as easily as breathing. The only people not using humor at that place were bitter, angry people who bitterly and angry tried to banish humour from the workplace, with disastrous results. So, yeah, I agree wholehartedly.
I think this is not the issue at all.
The issue is, that you and other people are using this thread to protect and defend yourself. This is not about
@Ed Norton and his pain reading this at all, but it should be. This is about you and others feeling repeatedly diminished by anti-institutional messages and taking this chance to defend yourself. I feel this is problematic. Not the sentiment per se, but the way you went about it. You took his issue and made it your own. You make valuable points throughout but it all seems so beside the real questions:
How does reading that text make
@Ed Norton feel? What does he see?
What is the real meaning of that text to
@Ed Norton?
How can
@Ed Norton cope with it?
Why did
@Ed Norton post this?
Can
@Ed Norton get something positive out of it?
These are emotional issues. Being cold and detached in a response to these, only because the own emotional response to it is not recognized, is not helpfull. There is something going on here which I percieve as deeply hideous and dangerous. Rationality is not the end all be all to emotional issues. It is a way of coping, a way of dealing, a way of understanding, yes, a good way even. But as soon as it gets used to move away from the emotional core of an issue, it becomes a weapon, a bludgeoning tool to silence those not proficent enough, or not in a position, to answer in kind.
Sympathy is a dangerous thing.
I dont find the words to express how wrong I think this sentence is.
Being skilled at rationalizing behaviour, that is a dangerous thing.
edit: I really dont have another stressfull discussion in me right now, I cant do it. So with this statement I think I too will bow out of this thread. I hope I managed to express myself without hurting anyone.