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New here. Have been in an alcoholic/abusive relationship for 30 years. Am in counseling and have been diagnosed with PTSD. However, I remain in my marriage. Trying to grapple with if I can heal from the past traumas while still being with the perpertrator of them. I'm starting EMDR therapy. Would be interested in whether anyone has had success with this.

Thanks.
 
Welcome Lizzy!

I do not have any experience with EMDR - not sure that I will since I have multiple traumas and sometimes it's not recommended in those circumstances - regardless, I'm not at that point in my therapy. However, from what I've read here - it has been very helpful to some.

I am concerned that you are still in an abusive relationship - if your partner is still abusive - you might want to hold off on doing EMDR for now and work on why you are still in this relationship IMO. I'm not judging you by any means - honestly - I am just concerned that you aren't going to be able to take the time for YOU that you will need - if you are still being abused.

I am so glad you found this forum - it has truly been a life saver for me.
 
Hello Lizzy, I'm Simon from South West of England and a trained EMDR practitioner. I have worked as a private therapist for a number of years using various cognitive interventions but I have to say that EMDR is an extremely effective form of therapy in many instances. Here in England it is recognised as a proper clinical intervention but of course at the end of the day whatever works for you works for you. I like EMDR though because it can clear things up more quickly than other therapies and can be practiced content free. In other words, you don't have to disclose distressing detail during therapy, so long as it's in your head at the time of doing EMDR sessions. Best of luck with this and if you need anymore info give me a shout over here in the good olde UK. PS - I am new to this site too because although I am not a sufferer of PTSD (although with some of the things that I've experienced to date maybe I ought to be!!) I want to do more to help people, whether they are on my doorstep or thousands of miles away. Who said the Net is a bad thing...Keep on keeping on x
 
LIZZYGIRL,

Welcome to the forum! I am glad you are seeking help and reaching out to the community. There are a lot of supportive and helpful people here and tons of valuable info.

I am sorry to hear your relationship is not going well right now. I cannot make the decision on how to handle this for you. I would recommend calculating your risks and rewards for various plans of action. I would also suggest considering what actions he/she will likely take and preparing plans of action for various situations. This is something you might want to bring up in therapy or in some other private way. Think about your current options and how you can expand your options. There are many ways to protect and empower yourself without going through (or before going through) a divorce. Remember that you are a strong person with lots of survival skills. Remember that you are an important and valued individual who can do a lot of good in this world with or without his/her help. Remember that we are here for you and this is a safe place.

I wish you the best,

Liz H.
 
Thanks for your responses. Being new, I'm not aquainted with this site. What is the best forum to post on regarding general questions about PTSD?
 
Hi LG-
Welcome to the forum. I can only say to you that my traumas stemmed originally from my marraige to an abusive alcoholic. That was almost 2 decades ago. Now I am here.
Please come here and feel safe. I will be thinking of you.
Stay well,
Anni
 
Hi Lizzy,

Welcome to the forum - if you have a look at the carers chat section you will see that a lot of us are coping with the effects of alcohol and ptsd with our partners.

Hope you find the information and support you need - this is a great site for both carers and sufferers so you have come to the right place

Helena
 
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