Supporter New - Husband Suffers Ptsd Refuses To Get Treated

[jumad08]

Hello all,

I am really just looking for some support for myself at this point. My husband and I have been together for over 15 years now and married for 7. We have 2 daughters 4 and 6 and about 3 years ago my husband was beaten almost to death and now suffers from PTSD, seizures, un-relenting migraines, and a barrage of other health problems.

He does not believe he has PTSD or that he should be labeled with it because what happened to him was not bad enough to warrant him getting PTSD, he truly believes that only people serving in our military get it. I want him to get help and to talk to someone even if it is not me. I have done a lot of research and he fits the diagnosis to a T. I am just really unsure of how to help him, myself, and our kids.

Has anyone dealt with someone refusing to believe that have PTSD and refusing to seek help. Things have changed so much in the past 3 years and I am taking on more and more responsibilities to the point where I am doing everything working full time, taking care of the kids, the house, the bills, everything and I'm tired and burnt out but I cannot put this stuff on him as he has enough to deal with but it seems to be getting worse not better. Any advice is appreciated. I thank each and every one of you for letting me vent in a place where other people understand.

 

[BigBear]

If I might suggest, I wouldn't talk about PTSD.

I don't have PTSD or any other diagnosis, but I have a therapist. She's made helped me see how to make a lot of things work better. Try suggesting it to him that way. Technically he doesn't need to hear a diagnosis so long as he is trying to improve his situation.

Bear

 

[jumad08]

Thanks so much for the response and that truly makes sense to not focus so much on the diagnosis itself but just getting better. My husband comes from the "old fashioned" family who thinks therapy is a crock and that is my other hurdle because his psychologist tells him and me if he is not receptive to the treatment then he will not get better no matter how much he goes. Again thanks for the suggestion that may be a start. :)

 

[ISupportHer]

I think that much of what you describe will be echoed by many others. Unfortunately, there is no "one size fits all" template.

Just a few thoughts. In addition to being here to learn more, some supporters find it helpful to see a Therapist also, in order to help sort through your feelings and responses. (As BigBear suggested also) Also, I looked for community support groups.

As for the suggestion about not talking about PTSD. I have mixed feelings but I DO think that sometimes labels get in the way. Sure, knowing a diagnosis may help direct treatment, etc. but sometimes I feel it best to deal with the person and what is going on, as opposed to a label. Hope that makes sense.

Anyway, welcome and I trust you will find valuable information here.

ISH

 

[KP the nut]

Hi and welcome to the forum.

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

Welcome to the forum. :)