Sufferer New Relationship To Ex Marine

[lilpinktyger]

I'm in a very new relationship with a former marine. I look into his eyes and sometimes I see pain and torment and other times when he looks at me I see joy and happiness. Latley though his drinking has been getting out of hand to where I have to literally have to pour him into a car and I cry myself home because it hurts me to see him like that. I care about him so much and hate to see that. I need to know how to deal with this. He treats me like a queen when we are together so that's not an issue, it's the drinking and pain and torment I see....and lack of communication. I told him I won't push him and I won't of course but he's got to tell me something other than what position he likes me in! Now, I get he's done and seen stuff that no one ever should have. We both suffer from severe PTSD but way different reasons...I told him my reasons and he cried and held me so tight.. .I didn't mean for that to happen....I'm trying to understand him but it's hard. Any advice would be appreciated in this situation as I love this man and I'm willing to do what it takes. I'll even back away if that's what it takes.

 

[intothelight]

Welcome to the forum! :)

Check out the supporter section as you may find some posts/threads that will be helpful. Also, make sure you take care of yourself first, because when you aren't at your best it is really hard to be there for others.

 

[Stacieamy]

For me, it's spending time with others who understand. Just being around other vets and sometimes talking, sometimes bullshitting, and sometimes silence. The thing is that I don't have to try to make them understand, they just do. This is when I can breathe.

 

[Ghostybear73]

Welcome to the forum!!!

 

[Jenna Peters]

Thanks everyone. I'll look around here and read all I can. It's going to be hard for me to understand what he's going through just as its hard for him to understand my pain. I know i cant fix him and I'm not going to try. I just want to know how to cope with his emptiness and being distant. Everytime I try to back away he begs me not to...it makes my head spin!